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How To Watch Porn With Your Girlfriend

2008-04-09T05:36:00.001-07:00

Despite popular belief, women do enjoy watching erotic pornography. Just because your girlfriend hasn’t mentioned it to you A. Doesn’t mean she doesn’t like it, B. Doesn’t mean she hasn’t watched it and C. Doesn’t mean she won’t watch it when you’re not around. So, why not watch it together and use erotic videos as tools in improving your sex life. One obstacle may be how you bring up the subject of watching porn together, without upsetting your partner? If you think you are unable talk about it (consider taking her out for dessert when bringing up the subject) think about printing pieces of this article out, buying a romantic card and write a short note as to how you are interested in spicing up your love life, pleasing her and making sex the best it can be, together.

No matter what sex you are, both women and men can “get off” fantastically if their bodies and minds are both stimulated. It feels great to be touched, kissed, licked and stroked, it feels even better if your mind and imagination are as stimulated as your body.

Everyone knows it takes more time to get a woman aroused than it does a man. So try incorporating women friendly porn in your foreplay regime in order to warm up your partner’s engine. Female friendly porn promotes the female and male orgasm, is geared towards female fantasies, casts females in the roles of women with power, brains and sex appeal all while female sexual pleasure is centred at the heart of the video, steering the plot. Women have an important role in this style of erotica; they are not just objects as they are in many mainstream porn flicks. It’s not hard to find female friendly porn if you’re interested in looking for it, just read on...

The following is a list of female friendly erotica seperated into levels, starting with appropriate erotic videos for beginners all the way up to movies for the skin-flick aficionado. Keep in mind that a good place to start when watching porn with your partner is to ensure that all participants in the video are (and look) of legal age, that the video considers female pleasure (and isn’t all about the come-in-the-face “money shot”), girl on girl porn doesn’t dominate the whole video (women want to see more than what they see in the shower every morning), and yes, a plot does help. Believe it or not, lots of women watch porn alone, so why not try watcing it together? Have fun, put on a glove and roll it.

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Foreplay - Lick Her

2008-04-06T06:01:00.001-07:00

Lick her! if you really want to get her going lick her. I love beeing licked ^^ Its really great! Hey, guys, if you can lick porperly do it! The girl will get a experience she'll never forget! It's really a good feeling being licked! So all you guys who wanna lick a girl, teach it firstand you'll be the best boyfriend EVER!! :)

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Masturbation a healthy habit?

2008-04-06T05:54:00.001-07:00

Masturbation is a healthy and normal practice, like daydreaming or napping. Even masturbating several times each day is completely harmless. You may encounter people, books, or websites that say masturbation is bad or harmful; this is just plain incorrect. As any reputable medical doctor will tell you, old myths about masturbation affecting the eyesight, causing permanent fatigue or insanity, etc., have long been disproved. In fact, recent studies suggest that ejaculating regularly isn't just fun, it can actually help prevent a certain kind of cancer later in life.

Most doctors would agree with these comments. Masturbating only becomes harmful if it begins to control your life and you'd rather masturbate then form relationships with other people. But, if anyone were to rationally list the pro's and con's of Masturbation, the pro's would win Hands down. Check out this great scientific study that was done the past few years. It's about sex and ejaculation in general, but covers Masturbation. Ejaculation has proven to be healthy for the individual, whether done by Masturbation or intercourse. (People who have more sex, even live longer and can avoid all kinds of diseases)

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2008-03-08T22:14:00.004-08:00

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Fantasy, Imagination and Desire

2008-03-05T04:27:00.003-08:00

Your most important sex organ is your brain. The mind - specifically, your imagination - is the fuel for deeply satisfying sexual experiences. Fantasies are thoughts and images you have in your mind and heart. Men and women who use fantasy as a sexual tool and path to arousal are the most sexually active folks around. They find the greatest number of different sexual experiences to be turn-ons, and are comfortable with their sexuality. Fantasies keep one’s imagination fueled and sex life lively.

The world of cybersex is the playground of the imagination. You can live out your fantasies and fulfill your desire behind the safety of your computer screen. The main reasons singles and couples say they engage in cybersex are to feel desired; to explore new realms of sexuality and overcome inhibitions; to add anticipation and mystery to sexual encounters; and to experience sexual freedom and push the limits of personal and societal sexual boundaries.

Online, you can have casual sex or a romantic encounter. You can build trust and intimacy with another person and explore your own sexuality, or you can have many brief affairs with a variety of people. You can have consensual sex without fear of disease or pregnancy. You can explore the nooks and crannies of your body and awaken your sexuality. And when you’re finished, you can turn off your computer and have real-life sexual experiences alone or with a partner.

Problems only occur when people confuse fantasy with desire. Fantasies are best in their true form - in your mind. Many times when people try to realize their fantasies, jealousy, fear or discomfort keeps one or the other partner from being satisfied by the experience. Fantasy is best used to fuel desire - as a method to arousal, as a substitute when you’re single, and as practice for real life experiences. If you end up spending too much time in your fantasy world, you can end up becoming an escape artist - escaping from real-life roles and responsibilities. Relationships in real time - be they work, love or family-related - come first. Your fantasies support these real-time relationships by allowing you time to explore, be creative, and let go.

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This editorial was written on loveandhealth.ifriends.net/ . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

Best Condom to Use

2008-03-01T05:20:00.004-08:00

You're about to get busy. The lights are low. She's out of her clothes and your boxers are twisted around your ankles. But there's one more step before you can get down to business. That's right, you need to choose the best condom for your protection.

We all know that choosing the best condom is a necessity in today's world of exotic diseases -- we shouldn't need to revisit the risks of going without one. But no matter how crucial condoms may be, they're still not the most popular accessory. Condoms can be a nuisance and detract from the pleasure of sex. And therein lies the condom conundrum: few of us enjoy wearing them, yet most of us must.

Here are some tips to make condom use as painless and unobtrusive as possible.

Choose the best condom brand
Some people prefer certain materials and textures when it comes to choosing the best condom. By far the most advanced condom material is a medical polyurethane called Microsheer, which is thinner and stronger than latex. Microsheer condoms are a little pricier, but they're worth every dime for the added sensation that they permit.

For the true player, Microsheer presents a long-awaited step up from the last generation of prophylactics. These jimmy hats transmit body heat, are nonallergenic and have no taste or smell.

This means that your woman won't get a nasty rash and an awful latex taste if she decides to give you oral sex in the middle of the main event. And you thought science was for introverts in lab coats.

Tactylon is another welcome development in the condom industry. Tactylon, like polyurethane, doesn't cause allergic reactions and stretches more comfortably than latex. It also costs a little more, but it's certainly a cheaper alternative to a funeral or a kid. If you aren't ready to make the price jump to polyurethane or Tactylon, there are plenty of cheaper options. You can always pick up the "ribbed for his and her pleasure" studded latex or one of a seemingly unending parade of shaped, colored and flavored condoms.

Rubbers at the ready
Keep your rubbers someplace that's easily accessible, but not overly visible. Some guys stick them in the bedside table drawer, but I find that friends and relatives will sometimes randomly open drawers and find them. Instead, use a small toiletries bag kept innocently near the bed. This requires only a small lean to grab, and there's room for a couple of rubbers in there. No more than a couple, though; she doesn't want to see dozens of condoms hanging out, which can only lead to difficult questions about promiscuity.

Of course, opportunities to get lucky won't only come in the comfort of your own home. Always bring a condom or two on the road if you think there's even the slightest chance of getting some action. Keep them in the chest pocket of your jacket where they will be safely segregated from your keys, money and credit cards. If you keep them in a wallet or in a jeans pocket, you risk of damaging them or having them pop out the next time you reach for something.

Get it on, quick!
OK, so you've know how to choose the best condom, now it's time to put it on. Set your watches, guys -- this sequence is time sensitive. You only have a few seconds before you lose the moment or she has second thoughts and backs out.

If you need more time than that to get the condom on, just lick and suck on her breast or belly while using both hands to do any necessary adjusting. This will help sustain her excitement while she waits.

Opening condoms on the spot can be harder than you think. Instead of pulling it apart like a bag of chips, tear the packaging open like you want some. Also, tear it from the center and not the corner; it's easier.

If the partner you're with is a familiar one (not just a one-night stand), you may have the option of having her put it on. Handing the task over to her may result in it taking a bit longer, but it can be arousing enough to keep you raring to go.

Maintain your size
When putting the condom on, kneel on both knees on the bed and lean slightly forward. There are two reasons for this: First, the blood will rush to your manhood and offset any shrinking due to nerves or too much booze. Secondly, it puts you in an effective striking position for the next step. I don't recommend wriggling into a condom while lying on your back because the blood rushes away from your penis, and you'll have to further maneuver yourself into position.

In case of emergency
You'll need a battle plan in case the unthinkable happens -- breakage or worse yet, the condom slips off and goes M.I.A. There's only about a 1 in 50 chance a condom will break during sexual intercourse, but if you suddenly feel heightened sensitivity, that's a pretty good indication that the condom has failed.

At this point, stop and check out the situation right away. If you don't treat a mishap like this with the utmost seriousness, you'll potentially be exposing yourself to disease or imminent daddyhood. Plus, once the lady discovers that you decided on your own to continue bareback, it's guaranteed that she'll call the whole show off. If the condom has indeed broken or slipped off, get rid of it and put on a new one. Know that there's a chance that she'll be freaked out and want to stop.

Before cracking a fresh rubber, make sure you've located the last one. If it's nowhere to be found, it's likely still inside her, and she'll have to retire to the restroom and fish it out, effectively killing the mood.

rub 'er the right way

Some guys really detest using rubbers because of the loss of sensation and other associated hang-ups. No guy, however, wants to someday have to explain to his future wife that he caught a nasty incurable disease because sex felt better without a condom. And no guy wants to be surprised by the greeting, "Hi -- I'm your long-lost kid." Choose the best condom and avoid all the drama.

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This editorial was written on askmen.com/ . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

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2008-02-23T22:17:00.004-08:00

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Utherverse Takes on Myspace and Adultfrienfinder

2008-02-02T23:20:00.000-08:00

LOS ANGELES - The operators of an X-rated online video game on Wednesday launched Utherverse.com, an adults-only site that aims to duplicate the success of wildly popular teen hangout MySpace.com.

Owners of the new site, who recently launched RedLightCenter.com, expect to have more than 1 million registered users by the end of 2006 and encourage members to upload erotic photos and to complete fantasy profiles.

Brian Shuster, chief executive of Utherverse.com Inc., said people under the age of 18 are banned from using the new social networking site -- a move that should help the upstart online community avoid MySpace.com's No. 1 pitfall: pedophiles.

Teenagers, young adults and some full-fledged adults have flocked to News Corp.'s MySpace property to socialize, share interests and find dates.

But the site has also been fertile ground for some sexual predators, who have attracted the attention of parents and US law enforcement following multiple reports of sexual assaults to minors.

Shuster said Utherverse.com's uses credit-card age verification and has people monitoring the site, scouring it for postings from minors to ensure safety.

"Our users can feel safe and relaxed in the knowledge that they are dealing with other adults," he said. Reuters

Utherverse is a huge industry and I think it’s worth mentioning these sites for the sake of completeness. In short, Utherverse is MySpace for sex and erotic images - I’ve got no intention of testing it, but the various press releases give you a pretty good idea of what it’s about.

First off, the marketing pitch is great - the site went live at the end of July, and the press release used the typical sexual-predators angle, but in this case the argument is that because Utherverse is adults-only and requires credit-card verification, the Deleting Online Predators Act is irrelevant (see also MySpace Guardian). The idea is that pedophiles aren’t a problem if you don’t allow kids on the site, which seems like an interesting spin - although it seems to ignore that there are other sex crimes beyond pedophilia.

Utherverse includes “fantasy” profile pages, messages and movies, while users are encouraged to upload erotic pictures. What’s more, the site features a piece of software (I assume it’s a download) that allows you to create a 3D avatar and interact with other users - I guess it’s the cyber-sex equivalent of Second Life. Utherverse comes from the makers of RedLightCenter, a sex-based MMOG, which would explain the connection.

However, they do have a distinct advantage over the other niche social networks: since MySpace, Friendster and YouTube supposedly remove images that are considered porn, there’s a fairly substantial gap in the market - porn sites can quickly roll out half-hearted MySpace clones and still turn a huge profit. And that’s the other advantage of sex-based social networks: users willingly submit their credit cards and even pay for content - you might disagree with their morals, but you can’t criticize them for having a weak business model. Founder Brian Shuster expects to reach more than 1 million registered users by the end of 2006, but those stats are obviously just conjecture. What is likely is that they’ll reach profitability long before their family-friendly counterparts

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This editorial was written on abs-cbnnews.com . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

How to Finger a Girl

2008-01-26T21:32:00.000-08:00

Using your fingers on a woman's vagina can reap amazing results -- given that you do it right. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo and amount of fingers.

So today's tip is going to offer up a bunch of ways that you can use your fingers on a woman. But before you get to work, there's one thing that's certain: A woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina. You can't just shove your fingers inside her or rub her clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So, remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.
The rubber
The clitoris is the place to be for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in circular motions. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should you go so fast that you end up losing focus.

If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside the vagina at a rhythmic pace. Take cues from her reactions to see if she's one of these women.
The fastest finger
Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, then using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.

You'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.
The helping hand
If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll keep getting wetter. While using the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina. The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. And it's not a race; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know.

The screw
In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and come out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.

Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.
The G-spot indicator
Sitting in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your finger(s) inside her and make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.
The shocker
If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, then this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinky finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways, that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.

Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina -- it may lead to and infection.
The slider
This one needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver.
can't put my finger on it
Manipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.

Until next time, keep those fingers neat and trim, and show her what you can do with them.

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This editorial was written on askmen.com . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

Talk Your Partner About Issues and Concern About Sex

2008-01-26T21:25:00.000-08:00

Whether we are in a brand new relationship or have been married for forty years, when it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in.

When we imagine the potential for rejection and drama, taking a risk like that with someone we love can often feel too great. This is probably the reason so few of us do try to share the really difficult stuff of our sexual lives. Here are ideas on raising those hard-to-raise issues.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Allow as much time as possible.
Here's How:

1. Clarify the Issue for Yourself
Sex is complicated, your feelings may have as much to do with your own baggage and history as with your partner. If something is on your mind, sit with it for a while and clarify what doesn’t feel right. Some people find that writing a helpful way to do this; others will talk with close friends. The point of this is not to start complaining to others or placing blame. The exercise is all about you and how you feel.

2. Try to Write it Down
Don’t worry about floral language or grammar. Writing down what you want to talk about is a great step to clarify your issues for yourself and practice the way you might communicate it to your partner. Some people actually write their partner a letter, and end up giving it to them at a later point. Letter writing can be a powerful way to communicate your thoughts and feelings, and if done along with talking it can increase intimacy in a relationship in surprising ways.

3. Practice the Talk
If you’re nervous about bringing it up, practice. If you have a good friend you can do this with, great. Otherwise, practice on your own. Before every major “talk” I’ve ever had to do, I sit down in front of my computer screen and practice. If my monitor could talk, it would probably tell me to get a life, but it’s a great tool for me (and I’m pretty sure my monitor is too old a model to be talking).

4. Consider Your Timing
One of the most important considerations is when to talk. This will depend a lot on what you are talking about. If you want to raise the idea of trying something new in bed, then raising it just before you’re about to be intimate with your partner is probably not a good time. Ditto for raising your dissatisfaction with the frequency of your sex life minutes before your kids are due home (or your in-laws are coming over).

5. Choose Your Location
As with timing, location can make a difference. Bringing up sexual dissatisfactions in bed can be a bad move as it may create an association of negativity in your bed. Both you and your partner may also feel more vulnerable in bed than you would having the conversation fully clothed, out for a late-night walk.

6. Allow Time for Processing
Remember that your partner may be surprised by what you are saying. Give both of you the time and space to respond honestly without having to feel rushed or pressured. You may not be able to completely resolve the issue, or even talk about all the aspects of the issue in one sitting. Think about sexual communication as an ongoing process, not a one-shot deal.

7. Be Generous
No matter how hard it is for you to bring up your sexual concerns, if you are the only one raising them, consider that it may be even harder for your partner. If you can, try to be generous with your partner and try not to place the blame too heavily on either of you. There are two of you in the relationship, and ultimately both of you need to take responsibility for what is happening.

8. Check In Afterwards
Sometimes we can make ourselves so anxious about bringing something up with a partner, and then it goes not quite as bad as we thought, and we’re relieved, so we want to just move on. Give yourself permission to bring the topic up again. Don’t do it in a nagging way, but make it clear that your partner that you care about how they feel and you want to check in with them about how the conversation went.

Tips:

1. Keep in mind that every situation is different. These are general tips and your situation may call for many additional considerations.

2. Remember that your imagination can be your worst enemy when it comes to taking risks like this. The reality is that the response is almost never as bad as you think it will be, and talking openly about your sexual feelings, desires, likes and dislikes, can not only improve your sex life with your partner, it can improve other aspects of the relationship.

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This editorial was written on about.com . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

Hand Job Techniques..

2008-01-05T21:22:00.000-08:00

Hand jobs are a great way to pleasure your man. They can be used by themselves, or while performing oral sex on your partner. Below is a listing of hand job techniques, mostly gathered from alt.sex.faq. Although not necessary, it is better to perform these using a lubricant.

Pressure

With one hand, pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time.

Fire

Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil.

Glans Head Massage

Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while.

Healing Stroke

With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist and Shout

Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Anvil Stroke

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat.

Bookends

Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down.

Doorknob

Turn the head of his penis like you're trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.

Double Whammy

Bring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time.

Milking

Start with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat.

Perpetual Penetration

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis "penetrate" into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous.

Ring

Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.

Shaft

Stroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it's bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration.

Shuttle Penis

Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build.

Spot Pinch

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch, squeeze, nibble and tease that spot.

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2007-12-25T04:11:00.000-08:00

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12 Days Of SexMas ( For Her )

2007-12-25T04:03:00.000-08:00

On the 1st day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
a spanking over his knee.

On the 2nd day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
two tickle fights
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 3rd day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 4th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 5th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 6th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 7th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 8th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
eight texts a-teasing,
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 9th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
nine baths a-bubbling,
eight texts a-teasing,
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 10th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
ten fingers fingering,
nine baths a-bubbling,
eight texts a-teasing,
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 11th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me;
eleven hummers humming,
ten fingers fingering,
nine baths a-bubbling,
eight texts a-teasing,
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

On the 12th day of Sexmas,
my lover gave to me,
twelve orgasms throbbing,
eleven hummers humming,
ten fingers fingering,
nine baths a-bubbling,
eight texts a-teasing,
seven sessions shopping,
six nights out-dining,
Five Types-of Vibes,
four french kisses,
three foot rubs,
two tickle fights,
and a spanking over his knee.

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Cunnilingus Techniques

2007-12-25T03:54:00.000-08:00

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.

There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn’t feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won’t like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together. See the Bathing and Showering section for more details on how to make that bathroom experience a whole lot of fun for the both of you.

Before reading further, you may want to get acquainted with this region of her body by reading the erogenous zones section and having a look at the diagrams.

Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad (so long as you are gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don’t stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.

Oral Techniques

The Lick

Leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed, try licking her from vaginal entrance up to her clit and following the outer edges of her vagina along both sides. Repeating this technique going up and down and vice versa can be a great opener.

Labial Hold

While holding the two parts together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time.

Tongue Intercourse

The majority of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Target them with your tongue by inserting it into her vaginal opening. Techniques are pretty limited due to the length of your tongue, but try moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.

The Flick

Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her clitoris. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it is the most sensitive. This drives some women wild, and others find it to too intense. When stimulating her clit make sure to start out gently if you aren’t sure how she likes it. When you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.

The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot (i.e., very wet). These are more intense techniques, and may be too intense for some women, even when nearing orgasm.

The Clitoris Suck

Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips and lightly pull back her hood. With her clitoris exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like tormenting her – but don’t overdo it! We recommend not using your teeth nor using heavy suction when starting out.

The Clitoris Hold

Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.

The Tongue Tube

Roll your tongue into a tube (if you cannot do this, forget about it because it is genetic and you can't learn it). This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge to an explosive orgasm.

ABC’s

Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!

Other Tips

A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.

You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.

Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.

Exercises

To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:

Exercise 1:

Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.

Exercise 2:

With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.

Exercise 3:

Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.

Exercise 4:

Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.

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Oral Sex Tips

2007-12-25T03:51:00.000-08:00

An integral part of foreplay for a lot of people is performing oral sex on a partner; it is the most intimate step in becoming comfortable with your lover’s body, and your own. Foreplay can devolve into several playful techniques of erotic exploration, but oral sex both functionally and emotionally enhances the event. It allows us to feel closer to our partners, because we have surrendered a small amount of self-control by exposing a vulnerable body area. At the same time, the egocentric experience that we undergo when receiving oral gratification can be an enlightening one for those of us who are more reserved.

As always, safety is a concern; you can protect yourself and your partner by using an unlubricated condom or latex dental dam. A simple trick to make great dental dam is to chop of the end of a condom, then cut down one side of the latex cylinder. This rectangle is then placed over the anal area or woman’s genitals. It may seem like more effort then its worth, but there is a lot to say for the peace of mind knowing that you aren’t going to wake up with an unfortunate surprise. This is generally a good idea all the time, but should be performed at least until both partners have been tested for STDs.

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2007-12-21T03:32:00.000-08:00

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Introduction to Dirty Talk

2007-12-16T00:49:00.000-08:00

You are laying beside your partner, feeling their naked skin caress yours. Their chest rises with every whisper of a breath. You can feel their warm lips against your neck, and all of sudden, the sexually enticing words rush through your body like a jolt of energy. Have you wanted to unleash that wild side of yours through dirty talking, but haven’t found the courage, or don’t even know where to start? Here we have gathered techniques to teach beginners exactly how to do so. There are tips for breathing, body movements, sounds and the actual phrases themselves. The most important thing about talking dirty is how you say it, rather than what you say!

Creating Mood

For some, the first attempt at talking dirty with a partner can seem to be quite awkward. To eliminate some of that initial embarrassment, you should mention both the idea of the experiment to your partner as well as the limit of your desired kinkiness. The latter is created to help avoid a negative reaction from your partner in case you go “buck-wild” too quickly and cross their own personal boundaries. However, this chat should not occur directly before the incident; this could create massive unwanted pressure. Let’s face it – most people do not want be in the bright spot light when beginning to speak dirty.

Creating a sensual mood is an essential basic to letting that naughty side out of you. No, no - - put that Barry White CD down! The aura I have in mind could be considered a little peculiar, for it consists of a rhythm of breaths and body movements, rather than the soft music and candles, as most would expect. Yet you can also use those if you feel it adds to turning you on. This aspect is the most important part of dirty talking, because it is not what you say, but how you say it. You could say the dirtiest thing in the world and yet sound as sexy as an electronic encyclopedia.

Breathing

Stabilizing your respiration is quite significant for it distinguishes the difference between speaking normally, and talking dirty. You should begin by imitating the deep breaths you take in the doctor’s office as he/she listens to your lungs. You have the option of breathing through your nose, mouth or both. If decide to breathe through your mouth, you do not want to form a large “o” shape with your lips. Come on, you are not a pet waiting for a treat from its owner. Instead your mouth should be slightly open, no bigger than the point of your index finger. This seems to produce a more appealing expression

The speed of the breaths should co-ordinate with the progression occurring from body movements, foreplay or intercourse. If you are about to make sensual love, then the breaths should be slow, and if you are about to imitate a wild rabbit gone mad, then the breaths would obviously be faster.

After accomplishing a stable beat, you should be examining the sound of your respiration. Most importantly, your exhaling should faintly die off. If the exhale breath stays one tone, it could seem abrupt and almost forced. To help you visualize the sound of this breathing technique, picture a roller coaster. As it shimmies up the tracks, you inhale. As it pauses for a mere half a second at the top, so do you. Then as it coasts down the tracks until slowing down for the next hill, you make the initial part of the exhaling breath a little loud and then slowly become quiet. You may want to consider practicing this routine when you are by yourself.

Adding Sounds

Once you feel comfortable with this breathing technique, you can begin to make sounds as you exhale. These sounds should usually be instinctive and relaxed such as “uh,” “ah,” “oh,” or “mmm.” Here you are able to comfortably drop your jaw to widen your mouth if wanted. Do not analyze these sounds; there is no need to worry whether you are making a correct sound. If you unsure, a good rule is that you can rarely go wrong with vowels rather than some awkward consonant. For example, perhaps you choose the sound “bah;” you will ultimately sound like one very naughty, moaning sheep.

The trick with these sounds is that you are not being loud; actually you are being quite faint. The desired outcome is for your voice to barely seep out. Technically, this is speech sound articulated by a momentary closing of the glottis in the back of your throat, hence restricting the airflow. In laymen terms, you are making a murmur sound or a loud whisper. This is also commonly known as a “sexy voice.” If you are having difficulty reaching this volume, imagine being backstage at a play. All of a sudden, the main character draws a blank and completely forgets all his lines. It is entirely up to you to whisper the lines loud enough for the actor to hear, but not loud enough for the audience to hear.

Adding Body Movements

To perfect the rhythm, you now want to add body movements. Desirably, the body movements should be in perfect harmony with your respiration; the body movement should begin and end when a breath begins and ends. As you inhale, your chest should ever so slightly rise in an upward and diagonally out motion. Naturally, your shoulders will delicately move backwards and your upper back should arch with this motion.

There are many different techniques for exhaling. You can simply let your chest, shoulders, and upper back return to their original positions. This can resemble a relieving motion. Another option is to add a subtle pelvic thrust. As you inhale, let your lower back arch so your pelvis and buttocks are being pushed outwards. Your abdominal muscles are being elongated. As you exhale, squeeze your buttocks and bring your pelvis forward in a scooping motion, from a side angle, until back to its original position.

To add some difficulty to these movements, try adding an abdominal contraction as you are about to make the scooping motion. A contraction is the tensing of muscles. An abdominal contraction resembles the same motion your abs make if they are about to be unexpectedly punched; your shoulders move a little forward as the abs are pushed against your back. Ultimately, the contraction should make your pelvis finish the scooping motion by delicately going upwards and back down to its original state. From a side view, the path of your pelvis should resemble the digit, “six.”

For those looking for even more difficulty, let the quiver of the contraction be heard in the exhale breath. This sound can be quite sexual, for you can tie it to dirty talking concerning ejaculation. Even though all these movements are critical, you do not want to overdo the actions. You aren’t trying to get the attention of a plane. Keep it subtle or you’ll be doomed to the funky chicken dance.

You can also add other smaller body movements to the rhythm such as the arching of your neck, the closing of your eyes, and the clenching of your hand or the biting of your bottom lip.

This editorial was written on sexinfo101.com . For more information and tips, advices, make sure to check them out!

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2007-12-15T20:50:00.000-08:00

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The Science Behind..PROVIGRAX

2007-12-04T19:34:00.000-08:00

What is erectile dysfunction?

Male impotence: inability to achieve or maintain an erection, premature ejaculation, or inability to ejaculate.

Physiology of Erection

Erection occurs when the blood flow to the penis increases, as a man becomes sexually aroused. This occurs via the secretion of a chemical called nitric oxide (NO). Blood vessels going to the penis dilate, and blood fills the penis causing it to become engorged. This will typically last until arousal is diminished, or orgasm is achieved.

The penis has 3 chambers, which fill with blood during an erection. When you're not sexually aroused the penile chambers are open and allow for the flow of blood through them. When sexual arousal occurs, the chambers remain open and the exit gates close. When this occurs the blood that remains in the penis gives you your erection. Once the penile gates close the amount of blood in the chambers will determine how you perform.

Recent research has helped to change our thinking about the most common causes of sexual dysfunction. For a long time it was assumed that almost all erection failures were caused by psychological factors-- stress, anxiety, and fear. While these factors can play a significant role, most experts now believe the major cause of impotence is physical. Simply stated, anything that interferes with blood flow to the sexual organs interferes with sexual function.

Penile erection is mediated by the nervous system, which when stimulated causes vasodilation and relaxation of the cavernosal smooth muscle, which ultimately leads to penile erection.

Physical causes of erectile dysfunction

Alcohol and tobacco use
Fatigue
Brain or spinal-cord injuries
Hypogonadism (which leads to lower testosterone levels)
Multiple sclerosis
Parkinson's disease
Radiation therapy to the testicles
Stroke
Some types of prostate or bladder surgery
Diabetes (high blood sugar)
Hypertension (high blood pressure)
Atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries)

Feelings that can lead to erectile dysfunction

Feeling nervous about sex, perhaps because of a bad experience or because of a previous episode of impotence
Feeling stressed, including stress from work or family situations
Being troubled by problems in your relationship with your sex partner
Feeling depressed
Feeling so self-conscious that you can't enjoy sex
Thinking that your partner is reacting negatively to you

Testosterone and Sex Drive

As men turn 40, only about 2% of testosterone are free and 98% of testosterone are bound by Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG). Free testosterone is responsible for providing the body with energy, and sex drive. Normal men should have 800 in free testosterone. Men with <>

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HOW TO QUIT SMOKING

2007-11-24T19:31:00.000-08:00

Each time you puff on a cigarette, you introduce not only nicotine (a drug) into your body, but also hundreds of other toxic chemicals and carcinogens (some that can kill insects on contact, others that are used to embalm dead bodies). You probably know that cigarette smoking is harmful to your health, increasing your risk for heart disease, lung cancer, and stroke, but did you know that cigarette smoking is one of the main killers in the world? According to the Center for Disease Control, cigarette smoking remains the leading preventable cause of death, accounting for approximately 1 of every 5 deaths (440,000 people) in the United States each year (2003).

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The proprietary herbal formulation in Zero Nico Patch contains ingredients that act as natural substitutes for nicotine; thereby satisfying the body's craving for this substance, without all the negative side effects of patches containing the actual drug, nicotine. The all-natural ingredients will make you crave fewer cigarettes each day. This gradual process allows you to quit with no withdrawal symptoms and requires less willpower and effort on your part.

After analyzing many applicable studies and products currently sold on the market, we have developed a revolutionary formula, found in Zero Nico Patch, which guarantees smoking cessation in a very short period. Withdrawal symptoms will be milder due to the all-natural nicotine substitute, which helps you shake the nicotine habit gradually, with less physical and emotional stress. Furthermore, to help you through the process, Zero Nico's herbal formulation helps decrease the anxiety and depression that affect most people who are trying to quit smoking.

The nicotine content in your system will gradually decrease as you continue to wear the patch. To help you speed up this important process, Zero Nico contains ingredients with distinctive antioxidant properties, to detoxify your body and eliminate the nicotine stored in your cells. Most of the harmful effects of smoking will start to disappear once you stop smoking completely.

The patch application method allows the active ingredients to penetrate the skin and reach the bloodstream faster and more conveniently than any other method. Other methods, such as pills or lozenges, must be taken several times per day, since they lose many of their active ingredients as they are processed by stomach acid, minimizing their effectiveness. The revolutionary patch system eliminates the need to remember to take pills. Simply apply a new Zero Nico Patch every three days. It's that easy!

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10 tips on how to eleminate Premature Ejaculation

2007-11-20T17:34:00.000-08:00

So, what can I do to last longer?
Ten tips on how to eliminate premature ejaculations are given below. The easiest (and cheapest) things first ..

The stop and start technique
The breathing technique
The squeeze technique
Wear a condom
Masturbate first
Different sexual positions
Desensitizing cream
Pelvic muscle exercise
Herbal treatments
Testicular restraint and penis ring

Let's discuss these tips in more details...

Stop and start technique
This technique simply means to bring yourself to (near) the point of no return, and stopping all stimulation before it's too late. For some men, this includes removal of the penis from the vagina, although for others this may not be necessary.

After the urgent feeling to ejaculate subsides, usually after 30 seconds, then thrusting and intercourse can be resumed. This stop and start technique can be repeated several times.

Communication is the key here, guys. Let your partner know that you are getting close to orgasm and to slow down or temporarily stop.

In addition to intercourse, the stop and start technique can also be practiced with your hand, with or without lubricant.

Remember to breathe...
Believe it or not, breathing deeply and relaxing your body during intercourse can help! This works best for premature ejaculation that is caused by anxiety or tension.

Because of its relaxing effect, some men report that drinking one (just one ,guys) glass of red wine before lovemaking can help.

For others, distracting oneself by thinking about other things like the office or football can also help to prevent premature ejaculation. Just remember not to think out loud!

The squeeze technique
This technique involves gently squeezing the base or end of the penile shaft and stopping sexual stimulation until the urge to ejaculate passes. The squeezing can be done by either the man or his partner, and can be repeated until ejaculation is desired.

Wear a condom
One of the most overlooked simple cures of premature ejaculation is to wear a condom. Besides being a good practice against sexually transmitted diseases and as a contraceptive, a condom can help reduce the sensation and thus prolong sex.

Masturbate first
Masturbating first a couple of hours before making love can result in the increased ability to last longer. Unfortunately, this often reduces the man's desire for sex.

Different sexual positions
Some men reach orgasm and ejaculate faster in the traditional missionary position (man on top). These men may last longer when their partner is on top. Remember, however, that sexual position preference varies very widely.

Changing positions every so often can also help, perhaps by giving the man brief pauses during lovemaking every now and then.

Desensitizing cream
Desensitizing cream works by lessening the sensation felt by men during intercourse. Although it lengthens staying power for many men, it comes with a price: most of these men said that the cream also makes sex less pleasurable.

Be sure to tell your partner that you are using desensitizing cream. Unfortunately, the dulling effect can also be transferred and felt by the woman, making it longer for her to reach orgasm (which may be one of the reasons a man feels he's not lasting long enough in the first place!).

Pelvic muscle exercise
Would you believe that an exercise usually reserved for incontinent women can help a man prevent premature ejaculation?

In a woman, pregnancy and childbirth are the main cause of the weakening of the pelvic floor muscle. This usually leads to female incontinence. The good news is that a simple pelic muscle exercise can help.

The same pelvic muscle is also involved in the ejaculation process (if you must know, the contraction of the pelvic muscle forces the seminal or ejaculate fluid from the prostate gland). This means that for a man, the same pelvic muscle exercise can help gain control over his premature ejaculation.

The pelvic muscle exercise is simple: "flex" the pelvic muscle as if you are holding back from or stopping urination. Hold the muscle for about three to five seconds, relax for about three seconds, and repeat. With practice, you should be able to work your way up to hold your pelvic muscle for ten seconds and do as many as one hundred contractions per day.

Remember, you can do this discreet exercise at almost anytime and in any place.

Herbal treatment
There are many herbs for men's sexual health available in the market today. Some of these, such as yohimbe and maca extracts, are basically stimulants and may have unwanted side effects, especially for older men.

A very promising herb is XT. Taken regularly, XT has been proven by many scientific medical studies to help men overcome premature ejaculation without side effects. Moreover, the herb helps boost sex drive, increases stamina and control, and even improves sensation.

XT acts on the hypothalamatic sensors of the brain that regulate sexual excitement. By lowering the hyper activity of the sexual sensors, “XT” helps you to prolong the penetration time and delays of ejaculation by up to 20 mins. XT has been very favorably reported by a large number researchers. The pills contain indigenous ingredients of ancient reputed herbal drugs having salutary pharmacological action in spermatorrhoea, nocturnal emissions, masturbation and allied sex disorders. The constituents of XT tablets bring about powerful contraction of the seminal vesicle cutting up the afferent stimuli from the seminal vesicle and thus relieve spermatorrhoea. It tones up the system and improves the general vitality and acts as a restorative nervine tonic. It is not just a sedative and it does not diminish desire or sex interest as bromides, valerian and other tranquillizers usually do.

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Testicular restraint
Gently restraining the testicles from moving during intercourse can help some men from ejaculating prematurely. Although some found it uncomfortable or too much hassle, testicular restraint is generally safe. It can be purchased discreetly through erotic mail-order companies.

Taking cues from the squeeze technique and a vacuum device for impotence, an erotic device called a penis ring or band works to prevent premature ejaculation in some (adventurous) men. Here, a stretchy rubber ring on the base of the penis does the squeezing. Some men, however, feel slight discomfort during intercourse when wearing this ring.

Premature ejaculation can be treated
The tips above have been reported to help about 95% of men to prolong their lovemaking. Remember to be sure to contact your health provider if you feel that you have a severe premature ejaculation problem.

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2007-11-16T04:05:00.000-08:00

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Standing Sex Positions

2007-11-11T20:52:00.001-08:00

If you ever needed a reason to do those push ups that you said you were going to do after new years, or go to the gym more often or even get to that strange yoga class your mom keeps telling you about, here it is. Standing positions in sex can be some of the most enjoyable and most athletic aspects of sexual relations that you may engage in. This is certainly the more advanced part of sex and at the same time can be made easy with some easy attention paid to exercise and health.

Someone on our staff once asked me: “why would I want to go through all that work having sex while standing up, when I enjoy it lying down just fine!” Well, there is a lot of validity to this question. Why bother? Spontaneity is one good reason. Practicing upright sex opens the door to fooling around with your lover in a deserted bus stop, the bathroom at your favorite restaurant or even at 30 000 feet in a lavatory.

Aside from spontaneous sex our panel of women experts all agreed that having sex with a man that can have sex standing up means that changing positions for other types of sex becomes much easier. If you understand how to lift and shift and thrust then you will be far more comfortable maneuvering your lover about a session of sexual enjoyment. There is lots of sensuality in throwing a lover around the room, and being able to get rough against the wall, or even hold her off the ground while you have sex. The increase in blood flow from this type of athletic sex can be incredibly stimulating and erotic. It also can make men feel powerful and make women feel engulfed, these power relations can give a whole new dynamic to your sex life.

For whatever reason standing sex appeals to you, whether it be more exercise, greater sexual improvisation, or even just to make sex more fun, it is one more feather to add to the adventurous lover’s cap.

Stand up for your rights, I promise you won’t regret it.

BodyGuard

Dancer

Stand and Carry

WheelBarrow

always,

Sugar Evans
Pro Blogger
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How to Pick Up Girls On The Dance Floor

2007-11-11T20:40:00.000-08:00

So, starting up conversation with women is easy in the coffee shop, a quiet bar, or even the local supermarket. But how can you approach a girl in a noisy nightclub whilst she’s dancing with a group of friends?

You need to be able to set yourself apart from all of the other guys on the dance floor. Other guys will be making some of the following crucial mistakes on the dance floor, and to differentiate yourself from them you need to avoid making these errors. They are likely to be:
Standing motionless around the girls checking them out.
Making poor attempts to dance whilst not being into the music, just trying to get close to the girls.
Grinding on a girls ass.

A problem with this style of approach is that it’s a total numbers game. Normally you’ll only attract a certain type of girl responding to those approaches.

So, that’s what not to do, but how can you actually make a more successful attempt to pick up girls who are dancing?

Here’s a few tips you can use to pick-up on the dance-floor:

Firstly, just have fun dancing around, enjoy yourself and the music. Don’t try to jump straight into the woman’s space. If you are a man having a fun time on the dance-floor, you will instantly stand out from all the other men. The women will move away from the other weird, intrusive guys and instead begin to gather around you.

Then try to:

Begin to mirror the girl’s dance moves in a fun, exaggerated way allowing her to see what a fun guy you are. Make and hold eye contact with her which should get you a positive reaction and then you will be able to move in and dance with her.

Start a kind of “dance-off” with the woman gesturing to her to watch and mimic your moves. Try out a silly little move and then point at her expectantly. If you receive a positive reaction, move in and dance with her.

Look for the girls standing on the side of the dance floor, who are not quite dancing, ask them “do you like dancing?” If the answer is yes, say “do you salsa?” and as you say it take them and start salsaing with them. It only takes about 4 salsa lessons to be able to do basic steps, which are all you need.

The aim on when on the dance floor is to dance with the woman, begin to get physical, and then lead them to a quieted place where you are alone and are able to talk to each other.

Once you have perfected the dance-floor game, you’ll be able to attract women non-verbally in a highly sexual atmosphere. It is a rare talent and you’ll quickly benefit from the results, and the confidence will spread…

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Oral Sex Positions

2007-11-11T20:19:00.000-08:00

“What is your favorite Sexual Position?” After asking almost a hundred single people on the streets of New York City this simple question, we received a resounding answer. Oral Sex! We all love it. Men or women, doesn’t matter, we like to sit back and have our naughty bits serviced. For women the reasons seem to be because a good percentage of the ladies can’t reach climax without the direct clitoral stimulation that comes from oral sex by their man. For the men the enjoyment seems more psychological. Men like the fact that they are in control and have power, they also are just lazy and sometimes the fact that there is no pressure to please their partner can let them relax and simple enjoy the ride.

Inspite of this when we asked people “what’s you favorite position for giving oral?” we got a lot of blank looks. It was then that we realized most people think that there is just one way to give their partner a little “lip lovin’?” The truth is that there are lots of ways to give your partner that special kiss. From multiple types of 69ing to positioning different ways to insert the penis in the mouth, or more efficient ways to access the clitoris, there are a million ways to get that special someone to “suck you off.”

The most important part of trying different oral positions is that it can make an “oral” lover out of your “normal” lover. Some women dislike the way a penis feels in their mouth and the same is true for the guys out there. By trying different ways to put your mouth on that special someone, you may not only find different ways to give and receive pleasure, but also to overcome a general dislike of the act itself.

So here is how to turn “head” on its…er…head!

standing 69
Eve's Ecstacy

Fellatio Sitting

Fellatio Standing

Riding The Face

Scarf

Throat Swab

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Why Masturbate??

2007-10-24T19:00:00.000-07:00

The first and most obvious reason is that it feels damn good! If it weren’t for the ‘anal-retentive’, ‘holier-than-thou’ groups that condemn anything one does for sexual pleasure, we would be a far saner society. It is my opinion that whenever sexual tension and frustration build to a fever pitch, man is more likely to engage in violent and destructive behavior. Especially those who are living alone and don’t have sex regularly with a partner are more at risk. Sexual desire is one of the strongest urges man possesses.

I remember the warnings that the old-folks used to give to young boys as to the dangers of “self-abuse,” everything from hair growing on your palms to going hopelessly insane. Boys were often punished severely for fondling themselves. In a child’s mind, how can something that feels so good be so bad? Fortunately for me, my parents were not of that ilk and I was never made to feel that playing with myself, (in private) was anything shameful. During adolescence I must admit that I probably engaged in the practice of “jerking-off” nearly to excess as I often did it several times a day. However, I feel that the frequency one masturbates is up to the individual. I am 64 and still enjoy a daily session at close of the day to help bring on a restful sleep. My doctor also encourages masturbation as a good way for older men to keep their prostate healthy and reduce the risk of prostrate cancer.

I am also fond of ‘mutual-masturbation’ and when available, enjoy masturbating with a good friend. It is one of the most intimate and enjoyable acts two friends can share. And, it doesn’t mean that it is an exclusively “gay” act either. Two straight men can enjoy it together just as well. From the junior high locker room after gym class to the clubhouse locker room at the golf course, men check each other out when naked together. Penis comparing is a natural curiosity among men and boys. Enjoy each other without fear of being ridiculed and if the desire is there, enjoy masturbating together.

I am quite certain that there would be far fewer sex crimes in this country if masturbation were encouraged as soon as the sex urge developed in youngsters, both male and female. Being sexually satisfied is a good thing so whenever you feel that stirring in the groin and the circumstances warrant, take that tool out and give it a good whacking…you’ll feel great when that orgasm occurs and be all the healthier for it.

Who knows? Maybe someday people will be free of their uptightness concerning masturbation and we will even enjoy a “National-Masturbation Day”! How totally cool would that be?

First Time Anal Sex

2007-10-19T21:42:00.000-07:00

There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger inserted into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may find the insertion of a dildo, vibrator, or penis very arousing and stimulating. This section contains all the essential guidelines for enjoying anal intercourse.
Getting Started

Some people are not very open to experimentation with this body part, as they are scared that it will cause great amounts of pain, or the whole thought of it is grosses them out. In any event, make sure to communicate with your partner to avoid bad reactions. If your partner refuses, don’t try to force them, it will be a horrible experience for them (and ultimately for you) if they are not comfortable with the idea.

If you are trying to convince your partner to explore this world, using something as large as a penis is definitely not the way to get started. You should start by getting them comfortable being touched in the area, then move up to using a finger or two, and then, when ready, finally moving up to intercourse. Please refer to the anal play to please women or anal play to please men sections to learn more about anal play, using anal sex toys, and analingus. Until your partner is ready to receive, their anxieties will cause their anal sphincter to tighten, and trying to push through will be extremely painful, so be patient!

Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this type of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your penis or sex toy has been inside the rectum, don't put them inside anywhere else until you have washed them. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection. Make sure to use copious amounts of a good lubricant, and start as slowly as possible the first few times.
The Largest Misconceptions of Anal Intercourse

Most people believe that anal intercourse hurts and that it is always an uncomfortable experience. This is quite simply false. As with any form of intercourse, the anus, like the vagina, must become used to the activity. Any woman who remembers her first time having sex probably recalls a painful experience. In fact, the first couple of times were probably painful and not that enjoyable. Did they stop having sex? In almost all cases, they didn’t. Anal intercourse falls under the same guidelines for both genders; it takes practice to get accustomed to the activity. Pain is usually a sign that something is being performed incorrectly, not that the act is wrong. In most cases pain is due to a few reasons: the receiver is too tense and tightening, the giver is pushing too hard, there isn’t enough lubricant, or that the penis or toy is still too big to put in (based on current experience levels). Using fingers and smaller toys is the best way to get used to the feeling, and it is advised that you increase size a little at a time. Once you have become comfortable with the idea and concepts you will probably find it very pleasurable.
The 5 Major Guidelines

1. Always use a lubricant. Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus a rectum produces is completely insufficient for anal intercourse. Therefore anal penetration should always be accompanied with an ample supply of lubricant. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible and highly recommended.
2. Stop immediately if your partner asks you to stop. If your partner is too tense to experiment, all forms of anal penetration will cause a great deal of pain. We are not saying to stop trying completely, just don’t push yourself onto your partner, as this will only result in a bad experience for them, and make them less willing to try again.
3. Take it slow. When experimenting with anal sex for the first few times, go slow. There is no rush and if you take your time you will probably both enjoy the experience. There should not be a great deal of forcing required. If lubricated properly, an object should slide in somewhat easily. We recommend using your fingers ahead of time to loosen them up first for the first few times.
4. Sufficient desire alone does not guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Read the other four points.
5. Always communicate with your partner. As with any sexual activity, communication is essential. Talk about what you want to do, discuss beforehand your desires, tell your partner what you like and don't like while engaging in anal intercourse. Basically, be open about your preferences and feelings, and, be receptive to theirs.

Understanding the Anus and the Rectum

A minority of men and women respond with orgasms to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority through the sheer excitement of being penetrated anally. For men, an orgasm may be experienced because of pressure applied to the prostate gland. They are no doubt responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb. Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their sensations and fantasies.

The main function of the rectum is to act as a passageway for feces, but feces are not normally stored in the rectum except just prior to a bowel movement. Small amounts may remain in the rectum. This is one of the reasons that it is recommended to use condoms during anal intercourse.

The rectum is not straight. After the short anal canal that connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts toward the front of the body, sometimes as much as 90 degrees. Then, after a few more inches, it swoops towards the front of the body again. A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose your grip, it won't slip into the rectum and become temporarily irretrievable.

If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system (voluntary), which means you can tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the autonomic nervous system (involuntary). The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety. It may cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the person is trying to relax.

Though it is always wise to practice the safest sex possible, this is especially true with anal intercourse. The lining of the rectum is very thin, and can rip if there is too much stress put on it. By wearing condoms, you can greatly reduce your and your partner’s chances of transmitting most STD’s.

Lasting Longer

2007-10-19T21:31:00.000-07:00

One common goal amongst virtually all guys is to last longer during sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, most men can’t last as long as they would like and feel inadequate because of it. The first thing that needs to be understood is that the state of mind a person is in has a huge effect on their sexual performance. Getting all uptight and worried is going to do you no good; neither is having a partner that gets really angry about it. Both parties need to work together to improve the situation, and the most important thing is to stay positive.

The first principle behind the techniques and suggestions listed below is the man’s ability to know his own body. By understanding how his body works and how his excitement rises, he should be able to learn how to pace himself better. It is key to know when to slow down to allow your excitement to drop enough so that you can “re-group” and then pick up the pace again. The second principle has to do with decreasing the sensitivity of the penis. By decreasing the sensitivity, it will take more stimulation to achieve the excitement necessary for climax. The following techniques and suggestions should help boost his sexual stamina, but they are not miracle cures, it will take patience and the right attitude to make things better.

Start & Stop Technique

The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.

Squeeze Technique

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating … if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

Regular Masturbation

A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.

Wearing Condoms

Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but especially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina. If necessary, consider wearing a thicker condom, it should make a large difference in the amount of stimulation that you feel.

Sex Toys

Following the same line of logic as in “Regular Masturbation” above, you can use sex toys to help you become more “immune” to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work. The Robo Suck 2 is a great toy that can bring the best of men to their knees; it sucks, strokes, and vibrates all at once. If the $65 (USD) price tag is a little too much, have a look at our toy store to find a product that fits your budget better.

Hand Job Techniques

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Pressure

With one hand, pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time.

Fire

Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil.

Glans Head Massage

Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while.

Healing Stroke

With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.

Twist and Shout

Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.

Anvil Stroke

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat.

Bookends

Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down.

Doorknob

Turn the head of his penis like you're trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.

Double Whammy

Bring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time.

Milking

Start with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat.

Perpetual Penetration

Start with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis "penetrate" into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous.

Ring

Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.

Shaft

Stroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it's bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration.

Shuttle Penis

Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build.

Spot Pinch

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch, squeeze, nibble and tease that spot.

mastomatic - The Perfect tool for lazy masturbator

2007-10-16T05:24:00.000-07:00

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Short circuits

2007-10-16T05:22:00.000-07:00

As it sounds, there are a few circuit breakers throughout the body that when pressed with enough force they manually prevent ejaculation. Learning to use them properly takes a little time, but once you are familiar, these can provide the ultimate emergency safeguard against any ejaculation before you are ready.

MILLION DOLLAR SPOT
A long time ago a Tantric Master named Lu the Immortal discovered a place on the body that when pressed with adequate force would manually delay ejaculation for as long as required. He ordered his disciples to guard this secret closely, and made them vow never to reveal it to any outsiders. The legend goes that around the turn of the twentieth century a wildly wealthy American, (who will go un-named) was on a journey in Western china, home of the disciples of the legendary Lu the Immortal. He had heard of their abilities, and sought to learn the ancient ways in order to improve a modern problem of his own.

Most of the masters he encountered were taken aback by his loud and abrasive mannerisms, and if they told him anything, they spoke only in intentionally vague and mystical language. In one of these sessions in particular, a younger master (and by younger I mean in his early 60's) was repeating through a translator the fable of the cobra. "While coiled, the cobra is quiet and poised. But when he strikes he becomes vulnerable." The American had simply had enough. In a wild outburst he exclaimed, "God, Damnit, isn't there just some spot I can push!" A very old and wise master who had been sitting in the corner of the room broke into a very uncharacteristic smile. This caught the American's attention.

In perfect English he spoke. "There is a spot, that if you push it, you can delay your ecstasy for as long as you wish." The American knew how to spot a bullshitter, but saw nothing but truth in the master's eyes. Intrigued, he asked in his most polite and beseeching voice. "Well where the hell is it..." The master replied, "I will tell you. for a million dollars." The American laughed, and then stared back into the long-beard's unflinching eyes. "Alright, I'll pay it." According to the story he did just that. In that place a great temple was built, and for the first time ever, Lu the Immortal's secret was revealed to the western world. The "million dollar spot" is in the area you might have heard called the 'grundle' or the 'taint', which is that strange stretch in between the scrotum and the anus.

The optimal pinpoint to push varies slightly from person to person, so start somewhere dead in the middle and adjust accordingly. Sufficient pressure on this area preceding ejaculation will prevent the semen from shooting up the vas-deferens, and will cause it to harmlessly return to the source, allowing you to continue lovemaking at your leisure. It is normal to feel your perineum contracting, just continue to apply the pressure until the contractions cease. It will have the sensation of orgasm, without the ejaculation, so you'll be able to keep going. And you thought that area was worthless.

ADVANCED TIP
Try sitting on a chair with a racquetball (or similar) pressing up against the spot. Have your lover straddle you and she is ready to ride all night long.

Rounding the bases

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When it comes to pleasing a lover, intercourse is only the tip of the iceberg. A solid knowledge of everything leading up to the sex will lay the proper foundation and make you more of a complete and well-rounded lover. Just remember, every minute you spend in experienced foreplay will pay it's dividend three-fold when it comes time for intercourse. Also, if you want to take the pressure off your performance, it is never a bad idea to give your lover an orgasm before you even begin!

A good percentage of women prefer oral sex to intercourse, so shhh... no more talking, your tongue has work to do. Surprisingly, in an informal survey of women conducted by Legend's Gym, well over half of the men giving oral were categorized as "having no clue what they were doing." This was followed by the resounding challenge, "It's not that hard, its only one spot!" To which was replied, "Right, and which spot was that again?" For those of you who need that question answered, it's the clitoris (that little hooded thing resting on the top of the vagina). The number one complaint was that men seemed to be getting lost, and were wandering all around the vagina like children separated from their parents at the mall. 'Would the child of Cun E. Lingus please return to the Clitoris? Thank You.' Now that we got that straight, here's what you do when you get there...

THE KISS
Don't underestimate the power of a kiss.

THE SECRET OF THE UPPER LIP
There is a meridian, or energy channel, that runs from the upper lip of a woman's mouth, directly to her clitoris. It is called the "wisdom conch-like nerve" and if you caress it with your lips, and tease it with your teeth, it will subconsciously stir her excitement. Which will subconsciously get her aching to have sex with you.

Manual Stimulation

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The percentage of women who can have an orgasm from intercourse alone is well under 30%. The problem simply being that there is not enough clitoral stimulation. That is why it is important to be able to take your ‘Manus’ which is Latin for 'hand', and simultaneously stimulate the clitoris concurrently with penetration. The motion for stimulation is generally a circular brushing of the clitoris. Depending on your position this is not always an easy thing to do. Practice different positions with your STU, and find which ones are suited for manual stimulation. You can combine this technique with any of the above routines, or any of your normal lovemaking rhythms. If you are gentle and smooth, 9 times out of 10, your efforts will be appreciated. For positions in which you are unable to reach the clitoris, try and help your lover feel comfortable about touching herself while you are inside her.

Vagina Fingering Techniques

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Techniques for vaginal fingering and other clitoral stimulation.

Labial Massage

Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.

A-One and A-Two and a-Three

Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.

Close But No Cigar

If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.

Push Here to Start

Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.

Tap Dancing

Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.

Cervix Clock

A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't.

From the Outside

Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.

Imitations

An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own.

Off the Edge

Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.

Ovaries

Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.

Proper Invite

Begin with a light, gentle caress that barely touches the inner thighs and pubic hair. Don't go much further until your partner's pelvis begins to arch upwards. Tease and caress until the lips of her vulva invite your fingers to come play.

Tracing

After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive.

Crecent Moon

Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the clitoris, and the external G-Spot\bladder.

Four Directions

With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side.

Gentle Touch and Tickle

Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly.

Healing Thrust

Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed.

Pinch and Pull

Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris.

Rock Around the Clit

With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'.

Temple Gate Tease

With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible.

Tour de France

Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris.

Triple Digit Pet

Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia.

Twist and Shout

Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist.

Female Ejaculation

2007-09-10T22:30:00.000-07:00

There is only one mystery greater then that of the female orgasm, it is female ejaculation. We've all heard stories about friends who have been with women who can ejaculate, but how many of us have actually experienced it first hand? When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite gray.

Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea, and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories here on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G spot stimulation (please read G spot section for more information). When the G spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The ejaculate does come out of the urethra, like urine, so that is where the confusion takes place.

So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes out the urethra, so it feels a lot like urine. Apart from people who love golden showers, how many people do you know who feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partners? It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.

MASTURBATION back by popular demand

2007-05-12T20:51:00.000-07:00

Everyone does it - even those who don't want to admit it. Masturbation is pure sexual pleasure. It's also simultaneously relaxing and refreshing. It stimulates your mind and your body. It gives you satisfaction. It satisfies your body's deepest sexual needs. Whether you do it once a month or once a day, whether you're a man or a woman, masturbation is really good for you. It won't make you grow hair on your palms. You won't go to hell. In short, you don't have to feel embarrassed about doing it.

Most people seem to prefer to masturbate in private - but not everyone. Some people get off masturbating in public places. Some of us need sex toys to cum. Some of us need just a minute or two to get the job done. Some of us need an hour or more. Some of us need to do it in the shower or bath tub to reach total satisfaction and sexual pleasure. Some of us prefer our lover to share this intimate moment with. Some of us would be totally embarrassed to even admit that we do it. But no matter how you do it, masturbation is great practice for the real thing. When your lover isn't near by, jerking off, spanking the monkey, getting off, is a great substitute for the real thing..

We'd really love to know what you think of masturbation, hand jobs, blow jobs, and porn. What's your sexual appetite like? Are you a nympho? Do you love sex? Is your sexual desire always on hot? Be sure to tell us what kind of sexual aids you have used when masturbating. Have you ever used a dildo, a vibrator, lace, lubrication? What sex toys would you like to try? This is the place to reveal your most private sexual secrets.

Raise your hand if you like to masturbate. Do you think it's okay to masturbate? Got any special hand job techniques you'd like to share with Sugar Evans Blog readers? A hand job isn't the only way to masturbate. Please share your special masturbation tricks and secrets with us. Our readers will be happy to let you know what they think.

Is an orgasm from masturbation as good as an orgasm during sex with another person? Is self-stimulation a good substitute when there's nobody in your life to make love to? Do you watch porn movies or read porn mags when you masturbate? What are your favorite kinds of porn: magazines, books, movies, peep shows, strip clubs, phone sex, web sex cams, or something else?

If you don't use it - and don't even masturbate - will your sex organs stop working or shrivel up? What are some of the myths and facts you've heard or read about masturbation? Do people who masturbate a lot lose interest in sex with real people? This is the place to share your self-stimulating stories.

Female Sex Fantasies

2007-05-06T04:03:00.000-07:00

Every woman on earth has fantasized about some explicit sex fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it's your girlfriend or your wife, today's top 10 list is sure to touch on a forbidden sex fantasy of hers that you might not have known about.

Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, others have a list that they are slowly but surely accomplishing. So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of her wildest sexual fantasies.

Do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women's names have been changed to protect their privacy.

So the next time you're engaging in pillow talk with your lady of the night, her sexual fantasy may be more common than you might think.

drum roll please...

Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you'll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality.

Number 10

Strangers in the night

Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the guy again.

Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part."

Number 9

The more the merrier

Group sex was a popular one among the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic."

Remember, guys: This is fantasy. Don't mistakenly assume that all women really want to engage in group intercourse and gather up all your buddies for your next date (unless, of course, she asks you to).

Number 8

Who's your daddy?

If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included:

spanking him
ordering him to perform certain sexual acts
making him beg for what he wants
having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object

Number 7

Put her on display

In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner.They say that the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides them with a feeling of empowerment.

"Imagining that people are watching me while I'm taking my partner's manhood into my mouth gives me a feeling of satisfaction because it makes me feel sexier." Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating in erotic movie.

Number 6

Be her teacher

Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master's demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands.

Vicky said, "Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master ." You see, guys? Women want you to correct them in bed On the other hand, Denise interrupted saying, "It depends... In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his penetration."

Whew, is it hot in here or is it just me???

Number 5

Three's company

Come on, guys, I'm sure you smelled this one coming from miles away. Yes, virtually every woman wants or will share her body with another woman. Are you jealous because you get left out? Don't be; most of these women want their man to watch them while they work... or play, as the case may be.

"The idea of touching another soft, hairless body and softly sucking her tongue, amongst other things, seems very erotic," said Sara. Yup, that does sound pretty inviting, but won't it be difficult for you guys to sit in the corner and just watch? After all, these women said they wouldn't want you to participate -- okay, one of them did. Yes, guys; you can convince her to have a threesome

Number 4

Leave a good tip

Keeping in mind that the women interviewed are professionals with commendable careers, some of them fantasized about being strippers, while others took things a step further and imagined being prostitutes. Obviously, the fantasy is romanticized beyond belief because the life of either is not so glamorous that women would opt to have it as a career choice.

"In my fantasy, while I'm performing a lap dance for my customer, he hands me a $100 bill and requests that I perform the lap dance... minus his pants," Tina boldly stated. When I asked Amber about her prostitution fantasy, she said, "The gentleman would pick me up in his expensive car and I would ride him in the driver's seat in some dingy back alley. He would pay me my fee and I'd be on my way."

Number 3

Two men at once

Most men enjoy the idea of being spoiled by two women who fawn over them simultaneously. In the same instance, women also fantasize about having two men all over their bodies. Some wanted a more gentle erotic scene, while the rare few wanted porno like sex.

One of the most interesting statements regarding two men was having one penetrate her while the other licked her clitoris. It sounds virtually impossible (especially if the guys are not bisexual), but nevertheless intriguing.

Other interesting ones included having one guy inside of her from behind while she gave the other one oral sex. Amber has fantasized about two guys performing cunnilingus simultaneously on her or having one guy perform oral sex on her while the other sucked on her breasts. This list goes on for hours, by the way.

Another woman made no secret of the fact that she wants to be nasty and do all the taboo things that most women would find degrading. She fantasizes about being penetrated from both the anus and the vagina, having the guys release their loads all over her, and craziest of all; she wants to be blindfolded during it.

Number 2

Strap me on, I'm going in

By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is getting to be the man for one night... literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man -- straight down to the genitals. That's right, I'm referring to a strap-on penis.

One woman actually had the opportunity to fulfill her fantasy and took full advantage of her boyfriend's willingness. "It was absolutely incredible to be able to penetrate a man and feel the empowerment usually associated with being the aggressor."

"There's something about having a man in a vulnerable position that is an incredible turn-on." Carol admitted. "The idea of knowing that we're in the position that is usually assumed by men is probably the biggest aphrodisiac of all."

Number 1

Oh, my virgin ears

Although a rape sex fantasy sounds somewhat unthinkable, that's exactly what most women call it. They want to play the innocent, naive, unknowing little girl who gets taken advantage of by the devious, predator-like man.

Forcibly pushing her against the wall and. "...Pinning my arms above my head with one hand while the other hand has made its way under my skirt and is fondling my vagina," received nods of approval by all the women in the room. Andrea went even further expecting the man to, "Rip off my clothes, force open my legs, penetrate me, and concurrently smear my lipstick all over my face with his forceful kiss." Guys, keep in mind that these are fantasies; don't read this article and take it as a reason to get medieval on your women. The reason fantasies are so cherished is because the majority of them will never be realized.

dream girls

Women of the new millennium have established their position in this sexually charged environment... and I mean that exactly how it sounds. Until next time, enjoy the femme fatale of your fantasies!

Turn Your Bedroom into a Pleasure Palace

2007-05-06T03:57:00.000-07:00

Nine new ways to last longer, experiment more, and make it hotter...

LAST LONGER IN BED

First, take one adult-size dose of reality -- you may feel better: The average guy lasts 5 to 10 minutes. So maybe you're perfectly normal but have been brainwashed by sitcom jokes and porn. Sex therapist Brian Zamboni, Ph.D., suggests shrugging off an early emission with some extra attention to her arousal (yes, it means staying awake), then getting back in the saddle. Most men last much longer the second time around. And the more you practice, the longer that first time will last. If your doctor signs off on it, you could try Viagra: A study shows it can help reduce your refractory period for that second go-round, and confidence leads to endurance. Also, do the following.

Please her first

Then she won't care so much about your hair trigger. Use your hands, mouth, or sex toys to bring her to orgasm before you take your turn, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.

Let her climb on

When she's on top, your penis is less stimulated. And ask her to go slowly. "Long and fast thrusting is hazardous to a man's endurance," says sexologist Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.

Practice

When you masturbate, don't let yourself come quickly -- it will train your body to finish fast, says Zamboni. If it usually takes you 2 minutes, try to stretch it to 5, and so on. Pay close attention to your arousal, Kerner says. If you can learn to sense when you're about to ejaculate, you'll know when to pull out and take a breather during sex.

HAVE MORE SEX WITH YOUR WIFE

Focus on better sex and the frequency will take care of itself, says Joy Davidson, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of Fearless Sex. One way is to add quickies to the equation... while redefining "quickie" in a way that works for both of you. Think of it more as an unplanned event than a brief one. Try a new environment where daring and spontaneity are part of the act -- a department-store dressing room, your garage before you leave for dinner, under that tiny airline blanket in 35A and 35B. If more places are available, more sex is, too. "If it's exciting, she won't need as much time to be aroused," says Joel Block, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of The Art of the Quickie. "Quickies that work will energize any sexual relationship. You'll have captured her imagination."

Persuade her to experiment more

Here's the problem: Whatever you suggest, she'll know why you'll enjoy it, but she'll wonder what's in it for her. (Note: Her chance to play "horny chiropractor" is not an incentive.) So start with bringing out her fantasies, says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. One night a month, be her do-anything male escort. She decides what happens. It could be the hot naughty. It could be dinner, one long kiss, and sending you off all excited. It could be shopping attentively with her -- stick with us here -- so every other woman in the store is jealous (never a small thing in her world). At the end of the evening, she pays you with an IOU for whatever she thinks you were worth -- so she'll have a chance to exercise her racy imagination. Whatever happens, you gladly play along and then reap the benefits. "Once a man shows he can be tolerant and eroticize her fantasy, she'll offer up more variety," Brame says.

Spend more time with her

Set up a romantic dinner date the way you'd schedule an office meeting and you'll thrive at home and at work. "The classic mistake busy men make is putting all their planning into their workdays and none into their personal lives," says Julie Morgenstern, a time-management consultant. "It may feel like career suicide, but the only way to keep your creative and strategic edge at work is to allow yourself to recharge at home." Making your partner a priority may boost your health as well: Studies show that spending time with a supportive spouse can curb work-related stress and lower blood pressure.

Set a schedule together

If that means a weekly gig for the babysitter, go for it. You'll be surprised by the payoff: "A routine is not so much confining as it is liberating," says Morgenstern. It's a guilt buster. "You won't feel guilty spending time with business associates on a Monday night because you'll have planned other times to go out with your wife or girlfriend. It frees you to live in the moment."

TELL YOUR CRUSH HOW YOU FEEL

"Rip off the proverbial Band-Aid and get it over with," says Nicole Beland, Men's Health's Girl Next Door. "Until you ask, you're never really going to know." Talk in person, call, or e-mail (yes, e-mailing is fine) on a Thursday afternoon -- that's the golden hour for confessing a crush. "It's late enough in the week that a girl will be thinking about the weekend, but she won't be rushing out the way she might on Friday," Beland says. And keep it short. "Tell her you have to get something off your chest, and then blurt it out just like they do in the movies," she says. "It's the most painless and romantic way. Then back off and give her time to think."

If she rejects you

Stand up straight, smile, and say something like "I'm glad you're honest, and it would be great if we could be friends." Above all, stay classy. She'll remember that.

If she's on the fence

Lay low and don't try to win her over with flowers or gifts. "If she's waffling, a grand gesture would only overwhelm her," Beland says.

If she says, "Oh, all right"

Send flowers the next day -- something small and basic. Then plan the date. "It takes balls," Beland says. "Will she jump into your arms? You're about to find out."

Turn a friend into a lover

Making a move on a good friend requires more careful work than defusing a pipe bomb. One false move and, well, you know. Avoid devastation and fallout with these four expert-approved strategies.

1. Set the scene. Choose a place that's comfortable for both of you, says Logan Levkoff, a sex educator and columnist in New York City. And don't make it a big production. "A lot of guys try to take cues from sappy movies where friends become something more," says Levkoff. "Don't stand outside her window with a boom box over your head."

2. Read her body. Talk less, do more. "Kiss her," says Levkoff. "Sometimes it's easier to break down the barrier physically instead of verbally." But how do you know to go for it? "If her face is close enough that you can lean in, then that's a good sign," she says.

3. Leave your game at the door. She knows about every girl you've dated and every pickup line you've ever used, so no fancy come-ons, Levkoff advises. Look her in the eyes and say, "You know all about me and my past, and I don't want the other girls I've dated. I want you." Yes, it's formal, but say it anyway. "It works because it shows her you're sincere," says Levkoff.

4. Retreat. If it doesn't work out, follow these three words: Let it be. "Eventually, your friendship can, and will, return to normal," says Levkoff.

REDUCE YOUR PORN HABIT

Your problem may not be a bad jones (and overworked johnson), but boredom. If you transform spare time into quality time, you won't be running to your computer every 10 minutes. "Join a hockey club or play in a basketball league at your gym," suggests Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. "Engaging in sports will help relieve pent-up physical needs."

And kink up your real-life sex life. "Porn is a quick fix," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist in New York City. Tell your wife or girlfriend a sexy fantasy you had about her. "Women are into role playing just as much as men are," says Kerner. It'll turn her on, and you'll have the naughty nurse of your dreams -- no flat-screen required.

Go to the next page for tips on how to get over an ex, make her orgasm every time, and have more sex with hot women...

MAKE SURE SHE REACHES ORGASM, EVERY TIME

This one's easy: Downgrade that resolution. "Put a woman under that kind of perceived pressure and you're pretty much guaranteeing that she won't climax," says Laura Berman, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the director of the Berman Center, in Chicago. "It's one of the main reasons women fake it."

Remember John Cleese in The Meaning of Life: "What's wrong with a kiss, boy?" A survey conducted by the Berman Center and K-Y Brand found that couples who kiss often in non-sexual situations are eight times less likely to feel stressed than those who don't. The key: "Kiss her in a way that doesn't feel like a quick stop-off on the way to getting undressed," Berman says. "Massage her, rub her all over her body, and give her the opportunity to quiet her mind before having sex." Yes, all that before you go stampeding toward her clitoris.

And once you do get to her clitoris? Toning down your intensity during sex may help her relax. "Unlike men, a lot of women find it easier to have an orgasm if they're receiving slower, more consistent stimulation," says Berman.

HAVE FREQUENT SEX WITH HOT WOMEN

What you're really saying, then, is "I want to manage several relationships at once without being perceived as a womanizing jerk." There are dangers here. Women in sexual relationships sometimes like to include monogamy in the program. But if you want to try, then the best advice, says Dean Mignola, author of The Single Guy's Survival Guide, is to remain genuine without being predatory. Let each woman know that you're seeing others. Say this: "I want to make sure when I choose someone, I really know her." She may dump you then and there. But maybe not. Her competitiveness may kick in, which could result in extra nakedness.

PROPOSE TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND THIS YEAR

Congratulations! May she always have the wit of Sarah Silverman and the body of Laetitia Casta. To ensure that this is the last proposal you'll ever have to deliver, first make the moment all about the two of you. That means you should resist the urge to tell everyone you know before you propose, says Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating. This includes her best friends. The next step is setting up the occasion. You don't need an audience; renting a hot-air balloon or securing space on the Jumbotron will only be a distraction. Instead, plan a day that demonstrates how well you know her, and propose then. Pick a place you've enjoyed together before, or choose a significant date, like the anniversary of the day you met. When she says yes, all that's left to do is pucker up... and kiss your independence goodbye!

HAVE HARDER ERECTIONS

Legendary erections are all about great bloodflow, like you had when you and all your blood vessels were in your teens. Regular exercise will always help with that, and here are some other hardening strategies you should be aware of.

Lose some weight

If you're looking to turn your weeping willow into a mighty oak, just add testosterone. Building muscle will stoke your he-man hormone supply. The surest way to deplete it? Gain fat. A study from Weill Medical College at Cornell University shows that as men gain weight, their testosterone levels shrink accordingly. The really good news: Muscle is the best fat incinerator around. Add some and you stiffen your resolve in two mutually reinforcing ways.

Get berried

The antioxidants in berries may combat free radicals in your bloodstream that could put a damper on your erection, Indiana University researchers found. Add as many as you can to your presex diet.

Tune your ticker

Yeah, yeah -- heart disease is the number one killer of men. But let's talk about something important: The blood-vessel scarring that threatens your heart also threatens the tiny vessels that harden your erection. So eat an apple and a bowl of oatmeal every day: Fiber is a great blood-vessel scouring agent.

GET OVER YOUR EX AND MOVE ON

Strip clubs and buddies can be your first line of defense, but as therapeutic as they are, you have to go back to that empty home sometime.

Be serious about it

"Treat a breakup as if you're overcoming an addiction," says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why We Love. Banish evidence of your ex -- cards, photos, that cursed jug of Woolite. They're the equivalent of a dime bag in the glove compartment, says Fisher.

Next step

Take a 90-day hiatus from new relationships. Enjoy your unencumbered life: "If you've wanted to go to South America or take sailing lessons, now's your time," says Fisher. Before you know it, you'll be ready to dash yourself on the jagged rocks of love all over again.

Heat in a Hurry

2007-05-06T03:55:00.000-07:00

Endless Bickering

Fighting over serious issues is normal, but bickering can cramp your sex life, says Valerie Davis Raskin, M.D., author of Great Sex for Moms. Unless compromise is easy, "it's often better to put minor disputes aside," she says. "You shouldn't talk over everything endlessly." In our survey, the most trivial quarrels were about the house. Avoid them by playing to each other's strengths. Then divvy up the decisions accordingly.

A Houseful of Kids

If tantrums and diapers are polluting your passion, ditch the kids (for a night). "It's all about creating opportunity," Dr. Raskin says. "Spontaneity is enviable, but planned sex can be great, too." Particular-ly if you're not getting enough. You know that couple next door? They're probably in a similar situation, so propose a kid swap. You take theirs on Friday, they take yours on Saturday. If the neighbors are freaks, go home when the kids aren't: lunchtime. Nearly 40 percent of women would be willing to get busy at noon.

Late-Night TV

Here's a disturbing set of statistics: Italian researchers found that having a TV in the bedroom halves your sex tally, yet 64 percent of couples keep a set in the boudoir. "Getting it on is about putting the brain and body in a passionate state--TV does the opposite," says Heidi Raykeil, author of Confessions of a Naughty Mommy. Can't quit? Buy a DVR and watch your favorite shows on weekends.

Conflicting Schedules

Sixty-hour workweeks plus social plans can leave her too tired to tangle. But pumping up the passion at the beginning of your week sets the tone for days to come. Go to the gym together on Monday or Tuesday: Studies show both sexes experience a surge of libido-boosting testosterone 30 minutes after a workout. Shower and then hit the bedroom. "It'll zap stress and the sexual momentum will last through the weekend," says Michael Breus, Ph.D., author of Good Night.

An Extra Slice of Pie

Hoovering down a romantic dinner can backfire. Share an entrée to eat less, and spark a passionate interaction, says Bunny Crumpacker, author of The Sex Life of Food. "Choosing a meal together and sharing the dish can boost your sense of cooperation," she says. Your best bet: Whip up a dish at home--66 percent of the women we surveyed said they'd be more likely to have sex after a home-cooked meal.

Perfection

2007-04-17T22:30:00.000-07:00

Its a boundless extent of what we can be
hands being held and innocence in your eyes
My words are formed with Adulation
Endless stairs to walk
An inclination to Rapture
Can you feel this?
The Impassioned ardent kiss
Devotion from the heart
This affection is essential
This is love, lust and tenderness
Whisped in a courtly manner

Courtesy of Mr Kyle Skadeland of Ohio (thanks a lot, for uderstanding.)

Achieving Orgasm: Getting the Most out of it

2007-03-24T23:54:00.000-08:00

Achieving Orgasm: Getting the Most out of it
Sex with the right partner can be wonderful, pleasurable and satisfying. When two people physically connect, sex can be liberating and the orgasm powerful. However, many people report having difficulty in achieving orgasm and when they do, it is sometimes disappointing. Others say that it is not always possible for them to achieve orgasm. An orgasm does not have to be an elusive thing. There are ways to experience a powerful orgasm - it just takes a little practice and a few helpful tips.
Don’t focus too hard on it. When your mind becomes fixated on the goal of achieving orgasm, your chances of actually reaching this peak diminish significantly. Sex is a wonderful activity that you should enjoy free of inhibitions and nagging thoughts. Instead, focus on your partner and how his/her body connects with your own. You want your mind to become attuned to the sensations and movements of your bodies. Your goal is to react instinctively and not plan anything. Stay in this state of action and reaction and revel in the feeling of two bodies moving in unison. The more you are able to let go and simply enjoy the act, the better the sex will be.
If you are struggling with achieving a powerful orgasm, it may be because your foreplay is lacking. Sometimes in the excitement leading up to sex, there is a tendency to reduce the time spent on foreplay or to skip it altogether. Unless there are serious time constraints, foreplay should never be skipped. In fact, good foreplay can lead to more powerful feelings of pleasure and better your orgasm. Here is a tip: if you are able to slightly tease each other and come close to orgasm without actually achieving one, your final orgasmic moment will be spectacular. Teasing one another in the bedroom is playful and fun and creates a sexual build up that powerfully culminates in your final orgasm!
Sometimes the best way to learn how to have a better orgasm is to practice on your own. This will involve taking the time to get to know your body and what sensations you find most pleasurable. To do this, women may find that using a vibrator is helpful. A vibrator is a way of heightening your self-pleasure in a no pressure environment. There are no set techniques to utilize a vibrator; the emphasis is on what feels good for you. The more you are able to achieve orgasm by yourself, the better able you will be to recognize the signs of pleasure. For men, instead of using a vibrator, simply changing your way of masturbating can help you to achieve a more powerful orgasm. When pleasuring your self, focus less on quickly finishing the task and instead, draw out the sensations. An orgasm becomes more powerful when there is not a dash to the finish line. Learn to take your time and enjoy the feeling.
Sex is supposed to be fun. If you find you are not having fun and are constantly worried about whether or not you will achieve orgasm, you are quite simply going about things in the wrong way. Let your thoughts go, take more time, and focus on the wonderful feeling between the two of you. Achieving orgasm is not out of reach!

Truths About Masturbation

2007-03-21T23:58:00.000-08:00

No matter what any adult told us about masturbating, it's a fact that 94% of teenage boys masturbate (the other 6% were probably lying).
And what about adult men like yourselves? Well, it's always hard to establish definitive truths in any survey on sexuality and sexual behavior since they are highly influenced by what people imagine is normal, but one thing seems likely: the vast majority of men masturbate at some point in their life and many men do it on a regular basis.

why should we?

In 1994, Dr. Jocelyn Elders actually lost her job as the US surgeon-general because she stated that masturbation should actually be taught to boys. Although she lost her job for it, Elders made a very good point. Teaching lads how to masturbate can actually be quite beneficial in their lives.
Playing with your weasel can help you learn how to control and delay your responsiveness so that pleasure is heightened for both you and your partner when you finally do reach orgasm. Also, for some men, it is the foundation for learning advanced sexual techniques like becoming multi-orgasmic (although this one is quite a rarity among men).

but wait, there's more!

Besides the fact that it can actually help you with women, it also feels pretty darn good and pleasurable. Ah yes, pure self-gratification; you don't have to worry about anyone getting off but yourself.
In addition to feeling so delightful, masturbating relieves sexual tension that builds up naturally over time (have you ever seen There's Something About Mary ?). Nearly every living, breathing male gets horny, at which time his mind becomes overly preoccupied with erotic (or even perverse) thoughts.

This is a very normal process: your sex organs produce and accumulate semen, and your body responds accordingly by making you want to release the ejaculate in order to make room for more (what a wonderful cycle, huh?).

can i die from it?

Even today, some men still think that there are some major repercussions that follow masturbation. So let me say this once and for all: Masturbation is completely safe. It doesn't affect the size of your penis, or even your ability to get an erection or have children. Instead, it's a great way to perfect your sexual technique (penis control) when you're ready for it. Actually, masturbating before engaging in sex with your partner can help you last longer.
Like I mentioned at the start of the article, it was commonly believed, once upon a time, that masturbation caused blindness, insanity, hairy palms, or other weird ailments. All of these terrible beliefs have obviously been disproved through modern science (not common sense, mind you.) Imagine if the folklore was true... just about every man in the world would be roaming the streets blind as a bat, with hairy hands and an uncontrollable twitch.

why hide it?

If you are a masturbator, don't hide it; but don't post a sign on your forehead either. If your girlfriend asks you whether you choke the chicken or not, admit it. As long as you don't give off the impression that you're thinking of other women at the time, she'll be cool with it. You can even incorporate masturbation into your sexual sessions if you like.
There's nothing a woman loves more than when you tell her that you were thinking about her so intensely that you just had to play with yourself. Most women I've conversed with have admitted that one of their greatest fantasies would be to catch their boyfriends masturbating and then complete the task for them.

how much is too much?

I'm sure that all guys, when they first discovered it, were masturbating more often than they were urinating. It's not surprising that some guys still think that they may be doing it too often. The problems that can occur though, have more to do with the psychological aspect of it all rather than the physical.
Men who masturbate chronically may be doing so because they are uncomfortable with their bodies (self-conscious, insecure); they don't like women and can't face up to it; or they may simply have an unusually high sex drive.

If your masturbating gets in the way of your daily activities, then perhaps it's time to cut back on the pocket pool. And if you begin to prefer masturbating over having sex with your girlfriend, or any woman for that matter, then you need to stop and ask yourself why.

where can i play?

There are no rules to where, when or how to masturbate, but there are some popular ones that I'm sure a lot of men would be interested in. First off, you can play "solitaire" wherever you please, but you are much better off if you're in a place where you can take your time and satisfy yourself at your own pace.
On the other hand, some guys like the fact that someone might catch them in the act and prefer to play in the bathroom at work or in their bedroom with the door slightly ajar. Be careful not to masturbate in public locations because you may be considered a pervert, or worse yet, you could get arrested for lewd and indecent behavior.

This question depends on your preference. Do you prefer a jump-start to your morning, or would you rather release a load in order to get a good night's sleep? Perhaps you choose to shed a whole new light on the term "coffee break". Whatever gets your rocks off, go for it.

positions

I'm pretty sure that most guys are already quite in tune with the how-to aspect of masturbation, so I'm going to suggest some positions you may want to try.
First off, some guys like to masturbate by lying on their stomach and rubbing their penis against the bed. A more common technique involves lying on your back or leaning against the wall and rubbing your penis with your hand(s).

For you crazy guys out there, why not buy a whole, warm apple-pie and slowly insert... oh yeah, that's already been done!

techniques

Let's move on to the most common ways that men are intimate with themselves.
Fist Technique
In this widespread technique, you simply wrap your hand around the shaft of your penis and rub it up and down at your own pace. This technique is great for guys who have big penises; if it isn't that much longer than your fist is width-wise, then you probably won't be able to stroke it very far, so another grip might be more effective.

Backhand The Sucker
This basically consists of inverting the "fist technique". Although it's not as common among guys, it feels very good nevertheless. Whichever hand you use, grab your penis from the left side rather than the right if you're right-handed and vice-versa if you use your left. Rotate your wrist so that your thumb is pointing down; you might have to pull your penis slightly to the side.

Five Fingers Of Fun
Let your hand and arm form an angle with your penis, with four fingers on top of the shaft at a diagonal and your thumb below. This allows you to get more control over the hand-to-penis contact and lets you maneuver your hand along the entire length of the shaft, no matter what size your penis is.

Three Finger Frolic
This one is good for gentlemen who aren't as well hung. All you have to do is hold your penis as though you're holding a pencil. This hold allows for the utmost control and maximum distance of motion from the bottom of the penis to the top, even though it doesn't involve full contact (your whole hand is not covering your penis).

Let Her Hand Do The Job
If you're not alone and you're in the mood for a good hand thrashing without having to do all the work, why not let your lady play with it as she pleases? Or, if you'd like to play a little game, show her how you like to play and ask her if she could mimic it.

She would love to get involved in your private sessions, even if it's only once in a blue moon. So get to work guys, and don't forget, it's always different strokes for different folks!

Cyber Sex: How To Do It

2007-03-16T19:15:00.000-08:00

Cyber sex is an alternative kind of sex that couples and singles alike are engaging in. The beauty of cyber sex is that you can remain totally anonymous and have some of the safest sex possible.
So whether you're in a long-distance relationship or you enjoy engaging in sexual fantasy over the Net, cyber sex can offer you a somewhat fulfilling sex life.
where can you find someone?There are plenty of places where you can find eager beavers for cyber sex. They include:
Instant messaging
IRC chat
Online dating services
Chat rooms
Message boards
E-mail
If you already have a partner, you can meet her at an agreed upon destination on the Net or even keep up your cyber sexing throughout the day via e-mail. It's up to you.
how do you do it?When it comes to cyber sex, you may want to invest in a microphone, at the very least. That way, the woman you're getting it on with can hear your excitement and know that she's turning you on. As well, there's nothing more difficult than being incredibly excited and having to type with one hand.
Talk or writeWhether or not you have a microphone, you will need to be creative with your language. Imagination is the key to successful cyber sex. However, the language you use will depend on the other person. Some women want nasty, vulgar language, while others prefer the "we're walking on the beach and you look over my way," kind of lingo. Feel her out before you start engaging in the fantasy talk.
If you don't have a mic, don't type things like "gasp, gasp" or "oh yeah, baby, yeah!" As well, being a good speller helps a lot, especially if the other person is.
Start off by asking what she's wearing, then describe what you look like (if you don't have a camera that allows her to see you, then you can look like whomever you want). Then converse back and forth. Let her start a fantasy, then you continue it, and keep going back and forth until you both end up having sex in the fantasy.
Touch yourselfWhile there really are no rules when it comes to cyber sex, you're better off throwing yourself into the scene and surrendering to the fantasy. You may feel somewhat ridiculous ultimately masturbating to a computer at first, but if you can give in to the situation, then it can be a great experience.
If she can't see you, but you have a mic, breathe heavily on occasion to let her know that you're into the fantasy. Describe what you're doing to yourself, or, if you're engaging in a fantasy, what you're "doing" to her.
no mic, no camIf you don't have a mic or a cam, then, rather than masturbate with one hand and type with the other, rotate. Let her write while you satisfy yourself, and then, after you climax, you do the writing while she gets off.
As well, not having either of these things will likely result in your having a difficult time engaging with someone who does. As well, you should be wary of who you're engaging with, as there are plenty of men who disguise themselves as women on the Net.
Things to keep in mind:
Remain anonymous -- don't reveal any personal information.
Don't make a habit of it -- make an effort to have real relationships with women, away from the Net.
If you surrender yourself to the fantasy, the other person can be anyone you want.

One of the best experiences of my life

2007-03-16T01:36:00.000-08:00

Im sure you all know what im talking about!! duh.

Bright Eyes and The Faint were amazing.The theatre was awesome because anywhere u were sitting u saw the stage with a clear shot.Everything was peeerfect.

Me and matt got there late juuuussst a little and we walked up to get in when the very nice lady if i might add noted there couldnt be any cameras... drraaag! so matt said.

"put it in my pants no ones going to check." then i laughed lol.

So we went to put the camera in his pants la la la we got in and the other band was playing which i forgot the name of i think it was audio something but yeah we first wanted to buy the merch.

So we stand in the big crowd and suprisingly got up to the front pretty quick where i bought a green bright eyes tote bag and an awesome aqua colour faint shirt! i didnt buy a bright eyes shirt because they had way bettter ones on the site.

Matt bought a black bright eyes shirt and a cool camo green color fant shirt.

We walked around found some seats and waited for the faint to come out.......

Thhhhhheeen they started to play!! ooooh my gosh it was sooooo amazeing you dont even know. they played WORKED UP SO SEXUAL!!. ah yesss i jumped out of my seat sooo fast. The last song they played was agenda suicide if i remember correctly i was so excited and dancing i might be wrong but im pretty sure... and it was awesome!!! man they fucken killed it!! in a good way.

It toook soooo looong before bright eyes would come out..but they finally did and YES! i shed a few tears....it was just sooo fucking incredible to finally see them live.

Time code was the first song they played and it got me sooo excited. Shit i was soo fucking excited the whole time i dont even remember what they played one after the other!!! all i know is that i got most excited when he played "hit the swich"......."devil in the details"......and !!!!!!!!!!

LOVER I DONT HAVE TO LOVE!! ahhhh what a fucking awesome suprise i tried to srcream soooo loud but couldnt b/c im sick lol. lame.

Yeah i watched every move conor made.....esp his feet. I loved when he danced. but didnt like when he jumped on everything and almost fell! eek!

thought it was cool at the end of easy lucky free the light were going all crazy and he was standing on the drum bass and all you could see was his back but the lights were shineing all around him.....man.

hahah there was one reallly funny part i guess one of the rockys was filmed there and conor asked nate to play the rocky theme song on his violin. it was sooo fucking awesome haha. and we were the last concert in north america theyre going over to europe for a " looong looong time" bummer.

nick zinner was there!! from the yeah yeah yeahs!!!....very nice.

AND! it was sooo fucking cute everytime there was a long guitar solo conor would go up to nick and put his head on his head or get on his knees and put his head on his feet while they were both playing it was one of the hottest things ive ever seen.

I cant even really desribe how i felt when bright eyes was playing.theres no words that could fully describe it only that ive never seen or heard anything like it.

and cant wait to go again. The most funny thing was when we were driveing home anytime a song would come on the radio ide get mad and think " here iam listeinging to this when i just listend to one of the two best bands"

no song was even compareing to them. So matt turned on his ipod and we listend to desapericidos.

Soon i fell asleep on matts lap and i was home. fell in my bed and easilly fell asleep remembering watching bright eyes play.

Building Trust

2007-03-15T21:58:00.000-08:00

What is trust?

Trust is:

Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you.
Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately.
Placing confidence in others so that they will be supportive and reinforcing of you, even if you let down your "strong'' mask and show your weaknesses.
Assuming that others will Publishnot intentionally hurt or abuse you if you should make an error or a mistake.
The inner sense of acceptance you have of others with whom you are able to share secrets, knowing they are safe.
The sense that things are fine; that nothing can disrupt the bond between you and the other.
The ability to let others into your life so that you and they can create a relationship built on an understanding of mutual respect, caring, and concern to assist one another in growing and maturing independently.
The glue or cement of relationships that allows you to need others to fulfill yourself.
Opening yourself up to let others in on your background, problems, concerns, and mistakes with the assurance that they will not ostracize you because of these things.
The act of placing yourself in the vulnerable position of relying on others to treat you in a fair, open, and honest way.

Why do people have trouble developing trust in others?

People have trouble developing trust if they have:

Experienced a great deal of emotional and/or physical abuse and/or neglect.
Been chronically put down for the way they feel or for what they believe.
Been emotionally hurt in the past and are not willing to risk getting hurt in the future.
Had problem relationships in the past where they were belittled, misunderstood, or ignored.
Experienced the loss of a loved one through death. They can get so caught up in unresolved grief that they are unable to open themselves up to others, fearing they will be left alone again due to death, or, abandonment.
Experienced a hostile or bitter divorce, separation, or end of a relationship. They may be unable to believe anyone who opens up to them in a new, committed relationship.
Been reared in or have lived in an environment emotionally and/or physically unpredictable and volatile.
Experienced a great deal of pain at the hands of another. Even if the other finally recognizes and accepts the responsibility to change such behavior, the person fears that if they let their guard down, the pain and hurt will begin again.
Low self-esteem and cannot believe that they are deserving of the attention, care, and concern of anyone. They have problems even trusting the positive, healthy, and reinforcing behavior of another who is sincere.
Experienced a great deal of non-provoked victimization in their lives. They are unwilling to trust people, situations, or institutions for fear of being victimized again.

What are some beliefs of people who have problems trusting?

I have been hurt too much in the past, and I refuse to be hurt again now or in the future!
People are out to get all they can from you, so avoid them to survive!
As soon as you let your guard down, you will be stepped on again!
No one is to be trusted!
You always get hurt by the ones you love!
I get no respect from anyone!
All men (or women) are dishonest and are never to be trusted!
Everyone is out to get me!
I am never successful in picking partners, so why try again!
As soon as you care and open up to someone, they will always leave you!
Marriage is the pits!
There is no such thing as a healthy relationship!
You can never let your guard down because all hell will break loose!
All reformations are short-lived!
If I give in and believe you have truly changed, relaxing my defenses, I am most certainly going to be hurt again once you backslide!
There is no such thing as change in behavior. It is only manipulation by others to get their way with you!
Everyone is out to get as much as they can out of you!
There is no such thing as a fair employer, generous company, or supportive work place!
It is better to live alone for the rest of my life than to risk being hurt as I was!
I will never let you know my true feelings again since, if I do open up, I'm afraid you will use them against me to hurt me!

What behavioral traits do people need in order to develop trust?

People need to develop the following behavior traits, attitudes, and beliefs in order to develop trust:

Hope in the goodness of mankind: Without such hope people can become emotionally stuck, reclusive, and isolated. Hope in goodness is a change based on the willingness to take a risk that all people are not evil, bad, or ill-willed.

Faith in the fairness of life: This faith in fairness is similar to the ``boomerang belief,'' that what you throw out to others will come back to you eventually in life. So if people are fair, honest, or nurturing they will eventually receive similar behavior aimed back at them. Having faith in fairness is an attitude that helps people be open to others and risk being vulnerable. They believe that the person who treats them negatively will eventually ``get it in the end!'' and be punished in someway later in this life or in the next.

Belief in a power greater than yourself: This is the acceptance of a spiritual power with greater strength, wisdom, and knowledge than you; one with a divine plan to include your experience, whatever you will encounter in life. Rather than believing that you are 100% in control of your destiny, belief in this spiritual power enables you to let go of over responsibility, guilt, and anger. This lets you accept God's will in your life and enables you to let go of your distrust and isolation from others. If God is in control of the universe, you can lighten your load and let God do some of the leading in your life. `"Let go and let God,'' can be your motto.

A healing environment: This is the creating of a trust bond with the significant others in your personal life where blaming, accusing, and acrimony do not exist. In the healing mode the participants actively use forgiveness, understanding, and healthy communication to resolve problems and issues. The participants are then willing to forget, to let go, and to release themselves of the past hurts, wounds, and pain, opening themselves to trust one another.

Reduction of a sense of competition: This reducing of competition, jealousy, and defensiveness with significant others in your life is a way to reduce the barriers between you and them. The lowering of these psychological barriers is essential to the movement toward development of mutual trust.

Self-disclosure of negative self-scripts: Your disclosing of your inability to feel good about yourself and your perceived lack of healthy self-esteem are essential in reducing miscommunication or misunderstanding between you and the significant others in your life. This self-disclosure reveals to the others your perspective on obstacles you believe you bring to relationships. This sheds the mask of self-defensiveness and allows the other to know you as you know yourself. It is easier to trust that which is real than that which is unreal or hidden.

Taking a risk to be open to others: This enables you to become a real person to others. It is an essential behavior in trust-building between two people because it is the establishing of the parameters of strengths and weaknesses on which you have to draw as the relationship develops.

Becoming vulnerable: This enables you to be hurt by others who know your weaknesses and strengths. This is an essential step in trust-building between people. It lays the cards on the table in a gamble that in such total self-revelation the others will accept you for who you really are rather than for who they want you to be. In order to get to full self-disclosure you must take the risk to be vulnerable to others. This is an important building block in trust development.

Letting go of fear: Fear restricts your actions with others. Letting go frees you of behavioral constraints that can immobilize your emotional development. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of caring, fear of success, fear of being hurt, fear of the unknown, and fear of intimacy are blocks to the development of trust relationships and can impede relationship growth if not given appropriate attention and remedial action.

Self-acceptance: Accepting who you are and what your potential is an important step in letting down your guard enough to develop a trusting relationship with others. If you are so insecure in your identity that you are unable to accept yourself first, how can you achieve the self-revelation necessary to develop trust? Self-acceptance through an active program of self-affirmation and self-love is a key to the development of trust.

Building Confidence

2007-03-14T20:43:00.000-08:00

Look At Yourself - Really look at yourself. Stand in front of your mirror and take a good look. This is really hard for a lot of kids to do, but try - it's important. That's your face you're looking at and it's going to be with you for a long time, so it would be really helpful if you would stop worrying so much about it and start liking it. Learning to really look at yourself in the mirror and accepting all the good and not so good things about your face is an important step in feeling more comfortable with you and then, with everyone else.

Practice - It takes practice to stop being so hard on your looks. But, if you look at other people's faces, you will see that no one looks perfect. You may think your favorite singer or actor looks perfect, but everyone's idea of perfect is different. (And people look a lot different under all that stage makeup.)

Your job is to start seeing the beautiful things about you. It takes practice. You might notice that the expression on your face makes a big difference in how you look. The most attractive people have eyes that say "talk to me", not turn away. Can you say "look at me" and "turn away" with your eyes in the mirror? Do you see what a big difference it makes in the way your face looks? The expression in your eyes and on your face mean a lot more than the size of you nose or the color of your skin.

Dress for Comfort - It's important that clothes make you feel physically and emotionally comfortable. Clothes say a great deal about the person who's wearing them. Kids who want to fit in, tend to wear clothes that are similar to what their classmates are wearing. Kids who don't want to fit in (or want to be left alone) wear very different clothes to send people away from them. Parents may make silly comments about how kids all like to dress alike, but don't most of them dress alike too? If you walked into your parent's offices right now, you wouldn't see too many people who are dressed that differently from each other. People of all ages really want to fit in with the group they're hanging out with. That's really okay as long as you don't worry that your jacket didn't cost as much as your friends, or your sneakers are not the most cool ones or your jeans are one inch shorter than your friend's jeans.

Everyone wants to fit in, but it's more than okay (it's actually pretty terrific) to develop your own personal style that you can wear with confidence.

Hygiene/Manners - Okay, now that you've taken a liking to your face and your clothes, let's work on cleaning and manners. The simple fact is that if a kid smells bad and has dirty teeth, other kids and grown-ups won't want to come too close.

Now some kids think their face will melt if water comes too close to them, but it's really not true. Taking a bath or shower every day, or every other day (with soap) and brushing your teeth at least twice a day makes a big difference in every kid's appearance.

Not enough can be said about being polite. Using please and thank you in your conversations with kids and grown-ups says a lot. It says that you respect them. Everyone wants and needs respect.

Chit-Chat

2007-03-14T20:37:00.001-08:00

It's those casual conversations in school, or on line with our peers and friends that often become the most awkward moments of the day. Here are some tips for relaxing and improving skills. Remember that almost everyone feels uncomfortable when first starting conversations. Don't think about how scared you are. Just think about what you want to say and then talk...

Conversation Starters on the School Bus:

I think I have to take my jacket off. It's so hot on this bus today.
If there's a new bus driver, you can say: Wow, a new bus driver, I wonder what happened to our old one.
Did you have a lot of homework last night?
What are you doing this weekend?
Does your teacher give homework on the weekends?
I'm so tired. I should have gotten more sleep. What time do you go to sleep?
I take piano lessons after school. Do you take music? (If the answer is no, then ask what the person does like to do after school.)

Conversation Starters on the Lunch Line:

Wow, pizza again. I love pizza, do you?
Oh no, not macaroni and cheese. It's awful, don't you think? (of course you can substitute your most and least favorites.)
What do you like to play at recess? I like to........(fill in what you like to do).

Keeping the conversation going:

Did you ever get into a conversation and after a few sentences no one has anything left to say? Here are a few tips on how to get past those first few minutes.
- In order to have an interesting conversation, you have to be an interesting person.
- Stay involved in activities so that you will have something to talk about. If you don't do anything but sit around watching TV or playing video games there's not a whole lot to talk about.
- Rather than spending a lot of time thinking about how uncomfortable you are, spend the quiet moments during the day thinking about different subjects and how you feel about them. If you're really sure about what you think about different subjects, talking about it becomes much easier. Think about: Do you like your teacher, softball, soccer? Do you like music and what kind? Do you like to read and what are your favorite books and why? Do you prefer Nintendo or Playstation?
- Don't be disappointed if every kid doesn't share your interests. Each of us is different, with different interests. How we learn who we like to be with and who we want to be our friends is by honestly talking about who we are.
- AND.....during a conversation, don't be afraid to ask more questions. Sometimes kids think asking questions is being nosey. Most people liked to be asked questions about themselves. It shows that other people are interested in them.
- The key to a good conversation is balance. Take turns talking and really listening to what the other person is saying so that you can make a comment or ask a question to keep the conversation going. Remember that talking to other kids should be fun - being ridiculous or silly sometimes is also part of getting to know a new friend.

Making Friends

2007-03-14T20:31:00.000-08:00

Choosing Friends - Before you make friends, you have to decide who you want to be your friends. Most people like to have friends who like to do the same kinds of things they do. That doesn't mean you have to be exactly like each other, just that you enjoy some of the same things. If you're really into sports, you probably will want friends who enjoy playing many of the same games you do. Likewise, if you love to read books, you will probably enjoy the company of readers. Forming a book club is a great way to get a group of kids together who share your interests. Think about your favorite things to do and try talking to your classmates at lunch or recess about your hobbies. You're bound to find at least one person who's excited about the same things that excite and interest you.

Making Friends - 1. The quickest way to make a friend is to smile. When you smile, people think you are friendly and easy to talk to. It may not be easy at first to smile. But, you can practice in the mirror. When you look at yourself, think if you'd rather talk to your smiling face or your usual face that may look scared or angry. Remember that other people have feelings too and most people will stay away from a scared or angry looking face. 2. One easy way to start a conversation with someone is to say something nice about them. For example, you could comment on a great answer to a teacher's question, good catch at the ball field, pretty shirt, etc...Think about how great you feel when someone says something nice to you. Doesn't it make you want to keep talking to that person? 3. Ask your new friends questions about themselves. Who's their favorite singer, where do they live, who's their teacher, what do they do after school are all good questions to start a conversation.

It's not really nosey to ask questions about people. It's the only way to get to know what they're like. AND, it's the only way they'll know that you are interested in them. 4. Make sure you have something to add to the conversation too. When someone asks you a question, do have an answer for them. If you don't know who your favorite singer is, or what your hobbies are, think about it. There's nothing that will stop a conversation quicker than a shrug for an answer. You can get to know yourself by keeping a journal. 5. Shy kids often have some trouble with complements. When someone says something nice, shykids will often freeze in their tracks and say nothing. This leaves the other person wondering if they said something wrong. The best and easiest reply to a complement is a simple "Thank You". 6. Be a friend. Kids who show an interest in other kids and who are kind and friendly make good friends. Remember, everyone wants to be around people who like to do similar things and people who are nice to them.

Activities - After you've made some friends that share the same interests, it's always fun to plan activities together that you'll both enjoy. Inviting a friend over to your house after school is a great way to make your friendship closer. If you know a game your friend likes to play, you can plan to do that together. If you and your friend like to play outside, think of some things you have around the house that you can organize to do outside. Make sure the activities can be done together. You may both love playing computer games, but this is activity best done alone or with a friend you've known for a really long time. When you play a computer game, one person is always left sitting with nothing to do but watch. Not fun.

Being a Good Citizen

2007-03-14T20:23:00.001-08:00

¹ What is a citizen? If you were born in the United States, you are a citizen. That means you are a member of our country. Sometimes people who are not born here want to become citizens. They do this by asking the government to make them a citizen. This is called naturalization.

² When you are a citizen you have rights. Rights are special privileges the government gives you. In our country, you have free speech. You are also given the right to choose a religion. In America, the press is free to tell you what is happening in the world. The Bill of Rights lists the freedoms given to citizens. These rights are very important. Many people in the world do not have freedoms like we do.

³ Because the government gives us rights, we have the duty to be good citizens. But, what does it mean to be a good citizen? How can you be a part of giving back for the freedom you have?

SAFE SEX

2007-03-14T20:06:00.000-08:00

Nobody has a body to die for. Safe sex is always better! It's fun, and you don't have to worry as much.

Safe sex means making sure you don't get anyone else's blood, semen, vaginal fluids, or breast milk in your body -- and protecting your partners too! Condoms, latex surgical gloves, and plastic wrap are the only ways to protect yourself and your partner from STDs and HIV, but they're not foolproof. You've got to use them correctly every time you have sex.

condoms

The best condoms for anal and vaginal intercourse are lubricated latex condoms. We do not recommend lambskin condoms because they don’t block HIV and STDs. Polyurethane condoms are good, but may not protect as well as latex (they are still being tested). If you're allergic to latex, please see "Trouble Shooting." Using lubricant will make things go smoother and give you added protection. Lube is especially great for women the first time you have intercourse, or if you tend to get sore. But always use a water-based lube (such as KY Jelly, Astroglide, Aqua Lube, Wet, Foreplay, or Probe). Oil breaks latex. Don't use vaseline, hand creams or lotions as a lubricant. Also, treatments for yeast infections contain oil and will break latex. Oil is good for salads and cars, not for sex! You can buy water-based lube and condoms at the drugstore.

Always use a condom.

If you're going to suck your partner's dick (blowjob), put a condom on it first. Try non-lubricated or flavored condoms for this. Whatever you do, don't get semen (cum) in your mouth, because you could get an STD or HIV that way. If you have a sore throat or small cuts on your gums (say from brushing your teeth), there's a risk of HIV going from the semen into your blood stream.

If you're doing someone with a sex toy -- vegetable, dildo, vibrator, or whatever -- put a condom on that thing! Don't switch the toy from butthole to vagina, or from one person's body to another, until you put a new condom on it.

Some people think that putting on a condom is too much work when you're supposed to be having fun. But it's easy for condoms to be really fun and erotic. Be creative!

here's what you do:

Get ready. Make sure your condoms are fresh -- check the expiration date. Throw away condoms that have expired, been very hot, carried around in your wallet, or washed in the washer. If you think the condom might not be good, get a new one. You and your partner are worth it.
That dick has to be hard before you put a condom on it.
Open it. Tear open the package carefully, so you don't rip the condom. Careful if you use your teeth.
If the penis is uncut (uncircumcised), pull the foreskin back first.
Make sure the condom is right side out. It's like a sock: there's a right side and wrong side. First unroll it about half an inch to see in which direction it is unrolling. Then put it on. It should unroll easily down your dick. If you start off wrong, try again with a new condom. You'll see when you practice.
Hold the top half-inch of the condom between your fingers when you roll it down. This keeps out air bubbles, which can cause the condom to break. It also leaves a space at the end for the cum.
Roll the condom down as far as it will go. It should reach the base of the penis near the balls
For anal intercourse, use lots of lube. Water-based lube is great for vaginal intercourse, too. Put the lube on after you put on the condom, not before -- the condom could slip off. Add more lube often. Dry condoms break more easily.
Guys -- when you pull out hold the condom near your balls so it doesn't slip off. Try to pull out while you're still hard. Take the condom off only after you are completely out of your partner.
Throw out the used condom right away. Use a condom only once. Never use the same condom for vaginal and anal intercourse. Never use a condom that has been in, or used by someone else. Never cum more than once in the same condom.

Guys, practice putting on a condom in a comfortable place where you have plenty of time by yourself. You know what we mean! Practice makes perfect, and you'll impress your partner. Girls, practice putting a condom on a banana.

Flirting Tips

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Flirting Tips

Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.

#1: Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.

#2: Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'

#3: Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)

#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'

#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.

#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out.

#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.

#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested.

#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.

#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!